Plus one or not?

Generally you give a plus one to a married person, engaged person, or someone who is in a long-term relationship. If you have the budget for plus ones though you can really give them to anyone you want to.

Plus ones are for single guests only, not people in relationships. Giving plus ones to single guests is entirely optional.

View Quoted Comment If you are married, engaged or I’m a serious relationship that is not a plus 1. That’s a unit. Units should be invited together. Plus 1 us got single guest.

It really depends on your budget and how many people you can afford to accommodate. I’m only inviting fiancés and spouses. No girlfriends, boyfriends, boos, any of tht unless i know them personally. Lol it’s a way to save on budget. On the rsvp card, i put how many seats i reserved for each household.

I gave a plus one to all my single guests because we could afford to. But you certainly do not have to.

I would say it definitely depends on your budget. It's nice to give plus ones to single people if you can afford it. We definitely couldn't afford that, so no giving out plus ones for us. However everyone in a relationship is to be invited with their spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend etc. It really comes down to whether or not you can afford to give plus ones. Try to refrain from hand choosing who you want to give plus ones to as well. If it can be afforded, offer all single people a plus one to be fair. Hope this helps, Jane

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That's more of an opinion. you don't have to offer anyone a plus one. It's up to the bride and groom

Plus ones are optional. Couples in a relationship need to be invited together. We are giving our singles a plus one.

I just listened to a podcast on this, it was The Woman Getting Married Wedding Podcast. I think it had some great tips on there. I thought that anyone got a plus one, but its generally more for people in serious relationships and the bridal party. It sounds like if those people aren't dating anyone, but will know people at the wedding then you dont have to give them a plus one. But as everyone else has said totally up to you and your budget.

The big takeaway that I got from the podcast was: Keep it consistent.

Agreed - consistency is key. We opted to give all our single friends a plus-one because we have room in our budget and space to do so. There aren't too many of them, and I'd only expect one or two to bring someone. In general I think it's a nice gesture, but if you can't, it's ok not to.

Plus ones are entirely optional. (Assuming they are actually plus ones and not a part of a social unit, as explained above.) If there's space in the venue and budget, it's nice to give them. But you are not obligated to provide guests with plus ones. For us, there's just not enough s

Plus one are optional, however, please keep in mind this: Someone invited, who knows no one, will be more comfortable with a guest with him or her. We gave plus ones as my hubby had a friend from college who knew no one there. As I have said in another thread, he could have brought the girl he met the week before at Applebee's, I would not have cared. Maybe he is gonna marry her someday, who knows? As long as they are presentable and sober, I am cool with it. He came alone, btw.

Definitely not necessary. We based ours on who would know people at the wedding too.

We only gave plus ones to our single bridal party members. For our guests, we followed the "no ring, no bring" guideline. That only affected 5 of our cousins; and most were fine with that decision. They understood it was because we may have never met their SOs (if they even had one).

(I say "most", because one of my cousins is throwing a huge temper tantrum at the moment lol).

View Quoted Comment That opinion, in the form of " married, engaged, or an established couple, as of the time wedding invitations are addressed 3-4 months prior..." Is published in hundreds of etiquette books since the 1960's to the present time, including all 5 on my shelf . So it is not just that poster's opinion, it is a pretty standard part of American etiquette. That is also the same policy recommended for any sit down dinner or party formal enough to issue invitations ( if any couples are involved. Not if all guests are singles )

Plus ones are for single guests, and it is up to you weather you give them. As a general rule we did not offer our single guests plus ones, EXCEPT in the cases where someone was traveling and wouldn’t really know anyone there. Our main concern was our guests’ comfort.

Err....WHETHER lol, homophones are hard

Whether or not two people are a couple cannot be defined by external evidence--rings, living together, etc. All those etiquette books are looking for a way to simplify what isn't always that simple (e.g. I was engaged for a month before I received my ring; was I any less engaged? Should I not have been invited because "No ring, no bring"?)

Only the two people involved can decide whether or not they consider themselves a couple, a social unit. If it's not clear, ask one of them.

A couple is a social unit and invited together by name. A plus-one is a guest of a guest and always optional.

We only gave plus ones to single members of our wedding party. No other single people got plus ones. But we invited everyone's significant others, we didn't consider those "plus ones" since they were in relationships with them.

Weddings are expensive invite who you can afford and who you can't see celebrating without!!! Married or not if I don't have a personal relationship with your SO and I can't afford another $100+ plate no plus one. It's your wedding your rules make your own decisions not ones from 1960