Plus one or no plus one?

We extended a plus one to all single guests over 18. For us, it didn't really add that many people. So far everyone who has been extended a plus one has declined the plus and is coming solo or with family.

I was gonna do plus ones but I'm not. Unless they have a bf or gf. No one is getting a plus one

Right now, my guest list gives everyone a plus one. When it comes time to send invites, I will re-evaluate. But for now I want to have that higher number in my head for all budgeting purposes, just in case everyone ends up with a SO.

I was in the same boat as you! Obviously, everyone with a significant other needs a plus one. But other than that, we ended up giving them out to single people only if they were truly coming alone. I have a cousin who is estranged from the rest of the family, gave him a plus one to make him more comfortable. Friends who aren't going to know anyone else there- plus one. Single family friends in their 40's- plus one.

We're in our 20's so a lot of our friend group is singles. We didn't give them plus ones because they will be coming as a group and all their friends will be there, they're at a table together, etc. they'll be fine. But I think anyone who is coming alone, and doesn't know anyone there should have a plus one regardless

No generic plus 1s. Anyone in a relationship - I got the SOs name and that is included on the invite.

We only have a handful of truly single guests on our list. All of them will know others, and I suspect they will come with family. For example, my sister and mum will drive together and share a hotel room. My SIL is a single mum with a couple of teenagers - they will all come together.

I remember in my mid-20s, about 2 years before I met the husband. I was truly single, not even casually dating anyone. I received a wedding invitation with a plus 1.....and was rather insulted. My friends group was rather tight. Several of us shared a house (not with the bride), all free time was spent together. But what did the bride think I was going to do? Find some random guy to bring as a date to a wedding where he knew absolutely no one else but me? Hell no. I couldn't imagine a worse evening for someone - who wants to BE the plus 1?

We are not doing plus ones unless we know they're in a relationship. Our truly single friends are just getting an invite for themselves.

You're getting married in 2019. Your entire guest list could be married by then, so you need to budget for plus ones either way. This is not something you need to think about now. Budget for it and if people are still truly single at the time invites go out, then you can make the decision.

I'm team 'no plus ones' here. We are not giving any plus ones. I just don't want strangers at my wedding.

Patricia, what if a guest is dating someone you haven't met? You can't exclude that significant other just because you haven't met him/her.

Just a fyi. In almost 2 years a few of your friends could be married by the time your wedding is happening.. lol

I'm not doing a plus one. Trying to keep it small.

They won't be coming. We are having a very intimate wedding. 10 people. No plus ones, no exceptions. Husbands and wives are not plus ones. The people we are inviting who are in serious relationships will of course be invited. But they are not considered plus ones. I don't know where people got the idea they are. Plus ones are for single people.

I'm doing plus ones for the ones who are single or I'm inviting singally... just so they're not alone in a crowd of people. Some of the won't be 100% comfort with my other guests and I don't want them to feel like they're by themselves.

Plus ones add up quick. We tried keeping our guestlist to 60 and are in the upper 80's from just adding spouses. So any non immediate family doesn't get a plus one with us. Add them cautiously Because they add up quickly.

Patricia, I'm well aware of what a plus one is. I was responding to your comment of not wanting strangers at your wedding and I'm making the point that even someone's spouse could be a stranger to you. Also, you don't get to decide the seriousness of someone's relationship.

Evan, you have to plan for everyone on your guest list to be in a relationship by the time you get married because you're getting married in 2019. Even if someone is totally single now, they could be dating someone or even be engaged or married by then, both family and non-family members. You need to budget for it.

If they are truly single, no, you do not have to extend a plus one.

I just did plus ones for our guests who are married or dating the person for long time. If they're single, they don't get one.

Katrina, the problem with "dating the person for a long time" is that new relationships can be just as serious. How do you get to determine the seriousness of the relationship?

We offered plus ones to all single adults and only one actually used it.

It is honestly wayyyyy too early for you to be concerned about this. You need to budget for everyone to bring someone though, in case they are in a relationship by the time your wedding comes around.