Plus one or no plus one?

We are planning on +1s for the bridal party and anyone else who is in a relationship/engaged.

We are not allowing plus ones.

Only give someone a plus one if they are in an actual relationship with someone. Why spend money on plus one's when you don't even know the person, plus no one wants to have strangers at their wedding.

It IS true that relationships change SO much in such a short time. We initially thought about giving a "2 seats reserved in your honor" only to people in a relationship, because every single one of our guests will know at least 2 other people there. We're having an almost year long engagement and to this day: a friend from college went from single to in a relationship with her son's father; and another friend went from living with her boyfriend to single... to dating said boyfriend again... and 2 uncles who passed away a few months back. Thankfully from the start my mom adviced us to leave room for these sort of changes so we budgeted for 15 people more... and now are looking at a smaller list

We're not giving plus ones to everyone because like you said it makes the count and budget go wayyyy up! We are going to give plus ones to those that have a significant other and we are going to extend it to other singles that will not know anyone else there. My fiance has a friend from college that may know 1 or 2 people, but they will be in the wedding party and we do not want them to feel uncomfortable at any point.

We are only doing plus 1s for people who are married or in long term relationships. That keeps are number down. Those that are single do know other people at the wedding so they wont be completely alone with no one to talk to.

Your wedding is nearly 2 years away. You have no idea who will, or will not be in relationships at that time. IMO all adults should be given a plus 1 for that reason.

It's up to you if you want to extend plus ones but I will say that in the end it may not be that many extra bodies. I didn't want to try to decipher people's relationships and determine if they're worthy of a plus one so adults are getting one. I don't always know who each of my cousins is seeing at the time and I certainly have friends who can't seem to put a label on their relationships either.

We've budgeted for plus ones for all of our over 18 single guests. (Anyone who is in a relationship will be invited by name, as SOs are not plus ones.) We're for sure giving one to all of FH's GM (all of my BP is married) and we'll evaluate for other guests before we send out invites. But by budgeting this way, we made sure we had room should everyone suddenly start dating someone.

IMO guests should be able to have whoever they want accompany them. My rsvps have blanks so guests can write in how many guests they like. We have 200 counted rn and can go up to 350. We don't mind extra guests. But since u can a limit of 150 I suggests you adjust your guest list to the point that if your guests do have a plus one it wouldn't affect your numbers.

I included plus ones, it came out to 23 plus ones, but only 3 people have rsvpd with a plus one out of that.

My original list had plus ones for all truly single people. But once we did the final i cut them all out. It was a big number and our numbers are already high as it is. So far I havent had any complaints.

Side note: just checked my mailbox for more RSVPS and nothing : ( i get excited to check the mail. Hahah

No plus ones! However, expect that some guests will ignore the fact that only their name is on the invite, and will bring someone anyway. That happened with three of our guests (out of 90)!

We gave plus ones to all single guests. several of them are now in relationships (we made our initial guest list 18 months ago), so i'm glad we budgeted for them. also, only one truly single person decided to bring a plus one. but people seemed to appreciate that we left the choice up to them.

Don't worry about this now, honestly. Relationships form, change, die in months.

SO's are not plus ones. And news flash; you don't have to include all your family (immediate is parents, stepparents, siblings and so's, and your personal children. Aunts, uncles, cousins?

Nope.

My rule was that I extended people plus ones that knew no one else at the wedding. Since almost all of my friends know each other and since our families are close, I only had to extend a plus one to one truly single friend. I have another friend who lives OOT, her SO can't make it, and she knows no one else. So I told her verbally that just because the invite says her SO's name, she can bring someone else in his place if she wants. I have truly single friends in the bridal party and they know lots of other people at the wedding. However, I am extending them a plus one if they want since they are honored guests.

I am doing the same thing as @ABB102817. Only plus ones went to truly single guests who will know no one else at the wedding and BP.

Make your guest list now as if every adult on your list will be in a relationship (and you would therefore invite their SO) and base your budget on that. We have had several people who were single for YEARS get engaged since last summer. All of our numbers and budgeting are based on our absolute max of 175. I would much rather see our invoices shrink closer to the big day than grow because I didn't realize So-and-so was dating someone. When you're ready to send invites, you can re-evaluate if you want each single guest to get a plus 1, if you would rather those seats go to someone else, or if you would rather just have fewer people attend. ETA: words

We are only giving plus ones to very close friends and family. He has a lot of young (16-18 y/o) family friends and they aren't getting plus ones. They can sit with their family and the loads of other family friends they know.

When I did the preliminary guest list, I included plus 1s for everyone. In the 2 years that I've been planning my wedding 2 of the people that we are having at the wedding have gotten married. Relationships can change in a short period of time. Even with people you think will be single forever.