Plus one etiquette

I'm allowing people to transfer their plus one's, especially in cases like yourself. It wouldn't hurt to ask and I don't think it'd be rude at all. Guest comfort should come first! You're not transferring your invite, just the plus one so they're already budgeting for it. I'd ask!

This is touchy, I think. A lot of people on WW believe that invites are non-transferable and intended for the addressed people only. Some brides and grooms will post rants about this, even.

However, maybe UO, but if I was the bride, and your friend, and you asked I wouldn't mind at all. It couldn't hurt to ask.

Invites are not transferable. Erin, to say the bride has already budgeted for it, you could then say that if guests wanted to give their invites to anyone and not come.

Maybe call her and start off with your fiance will be deployed. Then full stop, let her talk, see where it leads. As to "it couldn't hurt to ask", sure it could. Bride may feel pressured to agree, may be resentful.

OP would you be asking a plus one for someone the bride or her fiance knows? How do you know the bride?

I would definitely ask n explain why. I think it's perfectly fine to give a plus one for those that won't know any other guests. ETA, I think in this case its fine to ask. I usually just email/explain to avoid the other person being put on the spot...giving them time to think before replying.

Ambrok, of course OK to give plus ones for those who do not know anyone else. The question is, is it OK to ask for a plus one.

As the bride knowing all the things you put in your post, I would have offered to let you bring someone else. I would feel like that is only good form.

I would ask the bride. In a case like yours, the bride may acquiesce. Just be prepared for her to say no.

We thank your fiancee for serving. I wouldn't mind my guests bringing someone else as a plus one in your situation. Guest enjoyment is a priority and you deserve it sweets! Like other people said, call and don't assume. Depends on each couple's views on these things.

I was in this same situation on Friday. FH and I were invited to a wedding but he is deployed and I only knew the bride and groom. I've seen that it is rude to transfer invitations and didn't know how to go about it so I never asked and went alone. I made friends with the people I sat with, but it would have been better to officially know someone there. I'm not much help because I don't really have an answer on what is right or not. If you feel comfortable asking the bride, then ask her. The worst she can do is say no

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I had someone ask me if their mom could come instead of their husband because he was unable to get off work. H and I both know the mom well so we didn't mind at all.

I probably would have been annoyed if someone asked to bring someone we don't know instead of their spouse though.

You can ask but prepared for her to say no. I'm in the boat that invites are non-transferable.

I think you should ask. I don't think it will be rude since it is a legitimate reason that he can not come.

I agree with PP. I wouldn't be upset at all if someone asked me if they could transfer their plus one. I would want to know their name for escort card reasons and would want to make them feel welcome, too.

Ask. Honestly, and I don't care if it's an UO, in a case like yours, I'd lose all respect for a bride who said no.

Did she write and guest or his name? If "and guest" I would bring whoever, if she wrote his name I would ask. If I was the bride I don't think I would mind in your case.

One of my bridesmaids is dating someone who is deployed. So I told her that if he can't come, she is more than welcome to have someone else come with her. I wouldn't want her to sit all alone and be sad knowing that he's not there. I want her to have fun!

I would not ask. Weddings are expensive and I wouldn't expect someone to be ok with me bringing a friend

I wouldn't ask either. You will see, when you construct your own guest list, how problematic this all gets. Many people really don't want a room full of strangers, and while SO's of course get an invite, random people? Not so much.

If you're going to be so uncomfortable going by yourself, I'd rsvp no. And really, who wants to go to a stranger's wedding?

And yes, sincere thanks for his service.

I would think it will be okay, but it's nice to ask before just acting. I for one haven't minded as long as it's the same number of folks (ex. family friend whose husband doesn't go to weddings wanting to bring her adult daughter instead).

Personally, I think invites are non-transferable. If I send an invitation to X and Y and only one of them can go, I expect either X or Y to attend and not X/Y and Z. Sorry Z, you weren't invited. BUT if I send an invitation to X + guest or Y + guest, then I guess Z can come. :-D