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Margaret, on April 9, 2019 at 3:26 PM

Hello WW, I am curious to see how other brides have handled this situation. I am having a destination wedding in Mexico this year and I have sent the save the dates out already. I have included whole entire families on most invites, but 3 of my bridesmaids have asked to bring plus ones that are...

Hello WW,

I am curious to see how other brides have handled this situation. I am having a destination wedding in Mexico this year and I have sent the save the dates out already. I have included whole entire families on most invites, but 3 of my bridesmaids have asked to bring plus ones that are strangers to me (instead of their husband/boyfriends/family). I have denied them because I simply do not want strangers at my wedding. All 3 of them are friends (so they would not be traveling alone), but none of them want to bring anyone I personally know. I'm trying not to be frustrated with going back and forth about it. Thoughts?

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Champion November 2016
LB · on April 9, 2019 at 4:59 PM
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This. 100%
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on April 10, 2019 at 12:39 AM
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Agreed! They may need a buddy to help them with the costs.
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Devoted December 2018
Sarah · on April 10, 2019 at 11:56 AM
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Personally, I would let them bring whomever. It makes sense that if their SO is staying home with the kids they would still want to bring a friend. The price for most DW accommodations are based on 2 person occupancy. If they are a part of your bridal party they are those closest to you and probably shelling out a lot of money to be a part of your big day. Are 3 guests worth the stress , drama, and confrontation? If no, let it go. If yes, tell them they can’t bring them.
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Dedicated August 2019
Renae · on April 10, 2019 at 12:38 PM
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If I were you, I would just be honest with them and tell them that you are doing a DW to keep it intimate and to have only people you know and love there. They can either bring people that were invited ex: a husband... but the invitation doesn't extend to anyone that it wasn't addressed to. You are not in the wrong by only wanting people you invited there......
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Dedicated November 2019
Yasmine · on April 13, 2019 at 12:14 PM
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Let them being whoever they want. My FH and I can't always get time off at the same times and tbh if they have kids they may not be able to afford bringing the kids and/or having someone else watch them while they travel.
They are there to support you, but they also deserve to be comfortable. This is not a hill to die on, I say let them being who they want.
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