Please need help on bridesmaid gift etiquette !!

I would give them something small since you are already paying for their hair & make up. Maybe $30-50? Something personalized is always a good way to go

A gift shouldn't be based on how much someone spends on you. A gift is based on how much you are willing and able to give and should be done out of the goodness of your heart. Hair and makeup for the day of the wedding isn't a gift--you're paying for a service because YOU want it, not because your bridesmaids do.

That being said, you don't need to break the bank on your gifts. You can find clutches for less than $20 or nice earrings or whatever your girls will like. Hell you can even buy a nice frame and put a picture of the two of you in it. Just to show them that you appreciate them being there for you.

Don't minimize them paying for the shoes and dress. That can be a lot. And they don't need to throw you a bridal shower, bachelorette party or an engagement party.

That is ludicrous that you're supposed to base the amount of their gift on what they have spent on you. The gift should be thoughtful and if you prefer it can be personalized to each BM. A little token of "thanks" is all you need and however much or little money it takes to accomplish that is fine. However, it should not be "Wedding" related such as the hair and makeup. That is not a gift, that is so they can look pretty for YOUR wedding. Some ideas include personalized/monogrammed necklaces, bracelets, compact mirrors, tote bags. Good luck!

I would get them each a nice card with a personal not inside and include a gift card for somewhere specific to them. Something non-wedding related is the key here. Your thinking them, not just giving them something for YOUR wedding.

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Thanks for the tip, I just changed the avatar. And I didn't mean they didnt throw me these parties I meant I didnt have any of these parties so they didn't have to spend additional money on gifts. Maybe it's just difficult for me to give them something to say thank you because they didnt do anything I should be thanking them for? Maybe I have a wrong idea of bridesmaids because of movies/tv or because I've never been married, but I always thought bridesmaids were there to help you plan, organize, help with the wedding etc.

All they did was agree to be bridesmaids ( I gave them all a gift when I asked), buy their dress and that was it...

You ask people to be bridesmaids because they are your closest friends and family to you not what they do for you. I do think the wedding industry and perhaps movies have given a false impression on what BMs should be doing. Their only real responsibility is to buy the dress and show up sober and on time.

You thank them for being with you on your big day. You thank them for being an important part of your life.

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They are standing up with you on the day and supporting you through the day. That is what you are thanking them for. And for spending $ on a dress that no matter what, they will never ever wear again. But mostly they are being thanked for being there on the day to support you.

Bridesmaids aren't there to help you plan, organize or help with the wedding. That's called a wedding planner and you don't pay them in gifts, you pay them in money.

The gift is to show your appreciation for your bridesmaids being there with you on an incredibly important day. I'm assuming these women are your closest family and friends, right? So thank them for being there for you, not just on your wedding day, but for your entire relationship.

They bought shoes and a dress and they will be there on your wedding day. You will force them to smile for hours for pictures and to take up a whole Saturday of their time celebrating you and your husband. Some may have to travel or take time off work. THANK THEM for doing all of that.

You don't think that they deserve gifts because they didn't do anything to be thanking them for? So supporting you on your biggest day and buying a dress and shoes with their hard earned money doesn't count as doing something?

I spent way more..gave each $50 towards their dress (my maid and matron of honor would not take it); got them a tote, clutch, earrings and a shawl. I also made them hangers but it's not fancy, I used pretty font stickers to put their names and sealed it with varnish.

I'm also making them an emergency baggie. I have tissue, i ordered organza bags from amazon, and have little trial size samples of stuff. I will need a few more things. I think I had more fun then I should of getting stuff.

It's nice to thank them for being part of the day, and for agreeing to stand at place of honor at your wedding. A gift is a way to recognize that they are important and special to you, and you are thankful for their friendship. It doesn't have to be expensive, nor should it be based on any sort of scorecard of 'whose done what and how much'. Give them a small token gift that's personal and from the heart.

My gift for my BMs is having their hair done for the wedding, but I'm not requiring it. I offered to them to have either hair or makeup done for the wedding if they wished. I may also, budget dependent, give them something else.

Unfortunately, I am not in a financial position to be able to give them good gifts. But I will make sure each of them knows how grateful I am to them standing with me.

I know this might sound horrible but never knock the "cheap" stores. I have beer mugs at the dollar store for the men and cute designed wine glasses for the girls. I got some "memories" boxes from michaels and will throw in some jewelry. maybe a cute clutch for the day of. I'm in your boat and haven't been thrown any "parties" but I am still thanking them. I don't havea huge budget and they know this so in my case anything is better than nothing at all.

I also have never heard of basing how much you spend on a BM gift based on how much they have spent on you in preparation for your wedding. Just remember, you are thanking them for being part of your special day. Even a small token of appreciation to let them know how much it means to you will go along way.

BM gifts are not based on what they give you or do for you. my bridemaids paid $320 for dress and the least i could do is give them something nice. You should get them something personalized maybe a set of earring and bracelet. I got my bridesmaids a customised compact mirror with their names and personalized hangers and bracelets. im also paying for thieir makeup. it all depends on your budget and what you can afford, give them something they can use.

i got mine these on etsy: https://www.etsy.com/listing/220032539/set-of-8-bridesmaid-gift-personalized?ref=favs_view_16