Please help!

I think it should be ok to leave the registry information in with the invitations. You didn't write the information on the actual registry which for some stupid reason is considered rude. This is beyond me. Many people are going to buy you gifts anyway and if it isn't clear cut information then most people are just going to buy you a blah gift.

As long as it is not on the actual invite, you are okay. The slip is very common. It makes people's life easier.

Why wouldn't you include it? How else are they supposed to know about your registry? You're totally fine to leave it.

I wouldn't redo it, don't worry about it! I've had people send registry information in their invites and I didn't think twice. Honestly the people who are going to think you're "greedy" are people who aren't there for you as much.


Obviously people don't have to buy you gifts to show their love, but most of them want to because they're excited about your marriage! I had an aunt message me about registry info as soon as she received my Save the Date! I think especially now, people would rather know about your registry and get you something that you need/want instead of buying you something that you will just return!

I honestly never knew this was "rude" until I saw it all over here. I say keep it, why do you need to tell people by word of mouth? If people would like to get you something, they know where to go. If they don't, they can toss it. I've gone to plenty of weddings from a relaxed to fancy schmancy haha... most of them had their registry on that little slip. I don't know, it just wouldn't bother me at all. I like having all the info!

View Quoted Comment Thank you guys all so much! I think I’m just going to leave it, if this is the worse thing that happens I’ll be happy lol. Plus I asked a view family members and they were like put it in there or else how would people know ?? Lol

Constantly my family and friends are asking where we are registered at and I haven't even mailed out invitations. I'd just leave it alone. What's done is done. It's not going to hurt anyone's feelings.

I say leave it. Every time a registry is not included I always have to reach out to the bride/groom to see where they are registered. Definitely a lot easier to just have the information available and I can go to it without having to ask!

So it is not on the actual invite, just behind another RSVP slip? Leave it then! You'll have to buy all new stamps if you open them and can't reseal them. If you put it on the actual invite I would say it's "tacky" or whatever, but honestly, some people may not even see it!

View Quoted Comment Correct lol poll wins I’m leaving it 😹 too much work

I've typically only heard of registry information being included in the wedding shower invitation (usually not actually on the invite, just in the envelope). It is thought to be rude to make the implication that you expect a gift, which is how some people interpret it when you send a note about where you're registered. I personally remember where people are registered from receiving their shower invitation, or i keep that information so I don't forget. I've always looked up registries on my own before. I would suggest against mailing the slips with your wedding invitations, but I wouldn't necessarily go through all the trouble of un-sealing invitations if you've already put the paper in there.

Those slips are how it was always done in the past before everything became digital. I honestly don't think anyone will even notice. I think it is more having your registry info on the actual invite that most are so against. I personally wouldn't stress it.

I put my registry info on the wedding website and put THAT information on our wedding invitation! The RSVPs are online as well so.....

Girl don't stress about it. Nobody is going to clutch their pearls and faint if there's a registry slip in the invitation suite! At least you didn't outright demand money in a "honey fund"!!!

Asking for gifts is rude. Re-do the envelopes.

If I want to know where someone is registered, I look for a wedding website. If that doesn't produce results, I phone her and ask. Or phone her mother or maid-of-honor and ask, if I want to be subtle. Word of mouth is very effective.

I'd just leave it! I had a friend who didn't know and put hers on her invites, nobodys said anything or will probably even notice. I mentioned it to her just because we are both planning weddings right now and she told me I forgot to put registry information on my wedding invite, and I was like "actually, you're not supposed to..." We just laughed and both agreed it was silly.

View Quoted Comment Amen Emily!

View Quoted Comment I think I'm going to do it too! I'm not having a bridal shower sooooo? And a lot of my guests are out of state. I think it would be even more tacky to have my mom tell people or for me to tell people instead of put it on the invite? Idk stupid rule.

I think you just just send them! I think this is so silly. I'm not even having a bridal shower. And what about the people that have never been to a wedding, or don't know these 'rules'? Someone also said something about a honeymoon fund now....are those against the rules too?

View Quoted Comment Agreed 🙃if they don’t put it on any of the invite info I’m going to assume they aren’t registered. Not that I need to ask?? What the heck lol I’m so annoyed.

I say go for it babe! You do you!