Please give advise on guest wearing white to wedding

Ughh i hate those dresses. Whenever i see anyone in this at a wedding, I get annoyed for the bride. I don't feel like anyone should have any white in anything they are wearing.

I don't think I would be offended, but I would be upset if a guest wore an outfit where a large portion of the garment was white.

This has been brought up before, some don't care, others really do. As a guest I always assume that the bride does care so I don't go near the color white. That dress I would be upset about, too much white. It isn't that hard to avoid one color unless that is the only dress that person has.

I went to a wedding where it was super casual and the bride wore a short ivory dress. If someone had worn this dress to her wedding it would have been fancier than the bride (and more white than the bride). Therefore I think white should be avoided.

However as the bride, I know my dress is going to be way different from any white dress a guest would wear so if someone showed up in white I wouldn't kick them out, I'd just tell my photographer to not get them in that many pics. My FMIL showed me a dress that was black and white and me and my FH both gave her a big NO. But we also want a colorful wedding so on our website we said please no black or white.

I agree with Happy in Hawaii that it's a good rule of thumb to always assume the bride will be upset if you wear any white to her wedding. Especially if you are thinking about buying a dress for the event. Just buy something in any other color.

I see guests in white all the time. I don't really think anyone notices unless it's a floor length white lace dress.

Pretty interesting so close to a well populated thread on 'non traditional weddings'.

I personally don't care/didn't care. I had some wear white or ivory to my wedding (my SIL wore a short ivory lace dress - and my dress was also ivory lace and shorter) and it didn't bother me. I didn't hear anyone talk about it later. I think it's silly to get upset over something like that. You're going to be so busy that you're either not going to notice or not going to care. The whole white dress thing isn't that long-standing of tradition - it started with Queen Victoria and blossomed after WW - and isn't a tradition in all cultures anyway.

Unless it was another wedding gown, but then I would think she was nuts and call security!

I wouldn't care. Everyone can come in white. I won't be wearing white so.... I think that "etiquette" rule is silly and outdated. No one is going to confuse who the bride is.

I recently played for a wedding where the brides requested that everyone wear white! However, that is the exception. Best rule of thumb, if you think there is a possibility that the bride might be offended, don't wear it! Better safe than sorry (at least in this situation)

Im a firm believer in no one wearing any form of white except the bride. except for guys and their shirts ofcourse. i would be annoyed if i saw a guest wearing this. way to much white.

Yeah you can wear it...whatever...but do you really want to be that person that everyone talks about?? No. It is best to just avoid sold white or cream or ivory all together.

As a bride-wouldn't bother me a bit, probably wouldn't notice. I think it's a very cute dress!

As a guest- I would be wayyy too scared to wear that, wouldn't risk it.

Isn't that weird? I agree with Lisa, you don't want to be the person people talk about. IMO, brides these days are a little more relaxed so I wouldn't worry about offending the bride, but you may offend older generations of her and the grooms' family.

This was a huge hot topic in my brother's wedding, my SIL was so angry that my younger brother's gf purchased an off white dress... this is the dress that caused the scandal. It was a HUGEEEEEE drama, in which my SIL was going to uninvite her to the wedding if she wore the dress. One thing about my youngest brother's girlfriend, she is the sweetest most shy person and she didnt buy it to make anyone mad and she didnt realize that it was not ok. She comes from a very poor family and she bought this dress off ebay for very cheap and my little brother helped her pay for it, however she could not afford to get another dress at the time and she spend time just trying to alter and fix the dress so it would fit her. This drama caused my mother to get mad as well with SIL and my other brother's mother-in-law who were ready to kick her out of the wedding. My mother does not follow some of the typical American traditions as well, and saw no harm in the dress and felt the way things came about was very bridezilla-ish

That being said, I understand where the bride is coming from, and I understand where my brother's girlfriend was coming from. Would I have been mad? Not at all, unless I felt like someone wanted to outshine me. But I know that each person is different.

The dress was worn to the wedding, and no one said a word. My SIL was still angry, but what can be done at that point.

(My mother is an advocate for not needing to follow certain American traditions because she wasn't raised with those traditions. My SIL had a problem when almost none of my family sent back save the dates... they didnt understand the point of them if they can call and let my mom know- I didnt think it was all that serious either, until I joined this site! Lol)

But anyways, I guess it all depends on you and your feelings and what the dress looks like. That dress above- i would not think anything of it, While looking through my pics from my brothers weddings JUST now, I realized my cousin, who i was hanging out with alllll night, Had a black and white dress, white top, black bottom... and I never noticed she had any white... just saying.

By the way my family is from Puerto Rico (the deep mountaints lol), my SIL is Puerto Rican but raised completely in the US, and my other bother's girlfriend is from Mexico, born and raised).

I wouldn't risk it. I've said it before, it is easier to wear any other color than white then to actually wear white. Just don't do it. Even if the bride doesn't car you'll be judged by a good portion of the guests. Don't make anything about you on a day where it is about someone else.

I actually wouldn't care about that one. It's highly doubtful anyone would mistake her for me! lol

However, I'm wearing a ball gown. I can totally get why someone who was wearing something simpler would feel upstaged.

Unless it was a black and white wedding, I wouldn't wear it.

I wouldn't wear it. There are so many colors under the sun. I don't see why people can't choose one of those other colors to wear to a wedding.

I used to think it would bother me if someone else wore white to my wedding. There was a light silver and an off white dress but I didn't think twice about it - really, everyone was looking at me and my husband! I don't think that makes it OK for guests to choose to wear white to a wedding, but if it happens, it happens.

Just find something else. People vary sooo much on this, and even if the bride herself doesn't care, there will be at least some of the other guests who do, and will be talking about you the whole night.

If you have to ask, just find another dress. . .

I wouldn't really care, as my dress will very obviously steal the show

But I would probably think "seriously? Out of alllllllll the colors, you picked white."

My annoyance level would highly depend on who wore it. My Grandma wants to wear white? By all means!! FHs attention hogging female friend? Puh-lease girlfriend

I just think its is rude.It isn't a secret you shouldn't wear white to a wedding..