Please confirm that this is not appropriate..

Tell her that you don't want to ask for gift cards or cash because it's rude. Also, just so you know I still got cash and a few gift cards for my shower! So - tell her that too haha

I'm gonna chime in here, OP. You said in your first post that your wedding invites list you are registered at Macy's. Registry info has no business anywhere in the invitation suite. Bridal shower maybe.

Thank you Richard!!!!!

@coffeencolor I have no idea how you would of gotten that since we are discussing the shower and the shower invites.

I wouldn't ask for gift cards. But, I think home depot and lowes will do registries. If there are things that you want from one of those places, just go make a small registry. If people see that there are things you want from the he store, they might opt to just give a gift card so you can use it towards a bigger item, but at least you are not asking for it .

Yeah I agree asking for gift cards doesn't seem right. Usually gifts at the shower are intended for the couple. Technically you are the one opening all the gifts but they are gifts for you and your FH, at least in my case they are. I think it's kind of old fashioned to think that anything related to cooking or the home would go to the bride. My Aunt is throwing me a shower and FH is really hoping I don't open any of the things he added to the registry. We both love to cook so chances are I'll be opening some of his picks.

I feel ya, it does seem wrong. My amazon registry automatically added an amazon gift card to the very top of my registry. I was like.uhmmmm deleteeee

Some people aren't comfortable with gift cards, but on the Amazon registry they automatically add that to your list. You can do whatever is most comfortable to you, just a thought

MyRegistry.com will allow you to combine any stores you've registered at in the same registry. I registered at Crate & Barrel but went on Home Depot and Lowes and was able to add a couple specific things to myregistry.com without having to do a whole separate registry at that store. I think the only downside is that it can only be accessed online, like you can't go to Lowes then and print out the registry or anything.

Reading the comments, tho we are not asking for gift cards i did feel bad that FH wouldn't be as excited about the stuff as I am ( I decorate and decide on house needs, he just lives here lol) so glad to hear that Home Depot does registries!! Cant wait to tell him so he can make one and add the things that actually excite him!

Your instincts were right about not asking for gift cards. I would echo PPs and register for some stuff at Home Depot or Lowes. Then when the registry inserts go in the shower invitations, try can say registered at Macy's and Lowes/Home Depot. I did know a couple that got married right after buying a house, and she got so many Home Depot gift cards that she was pissed! She found that they had more gift cards than stuff to do around the house!

I personally wouldn't put Gift cards on a registry, I believe it is your guests option to give you a gift for what they desire to give you. They might want to give you something special.

I agree about the gift cards.

Your comment "I'm sorry he doesn't want a new crock pot but neither do I" kinda made me sad Are you guys registering for things you don't want because you feel that you have to register? Why not register for fun things you actually DO want, even if they are board games/bikes/camping gear/etc. As a guest, I'd be happier to give those gifts than crock pots and dishes. Heck, if there's nothing you want, you can totally go the no registry route. Ultimately, the registry is supposed to be a celebration of you and make you happy. It shouldn't be things that neither of you are excited about.

Thanks for the advice everyone! (: I'm going to talk to her this weekend!

This is a good question. Our registry is at target and I am debating where else I would like to register but anyways on the target registry it gives you the option if you'd like to allow guests to purchase gift cards. I said yes because why not, gift cards are easier for a lot of people who don't want to search through a registry, and we aren't asking for gift cards alone, they don't push the gift cards on the guests, but the option is there if that's what they'd like. Even then, it's not the same as asking for a check or cash in my mind. It's a target gift card lol.

Hiiii Savanah

Is she talking about adding registry info to the shower invitations or the wedding invitations? Adding registry info to shower invitations is quite common, but I'd just list the registries, not add cards.

If we're talking about adding registry information to the formal wedding invitations, then she's wrong. Whether she thinks it's appropriate or not is not the issue (and BTW, it's isn't appropriate). This is your wedding, your formal invitation, and whatever is printed on that invitation is a reflection of what you have wished for, planned, and executed. All you need to tell her is that you are not going to address gifts on a wedding invitation.

It's your right, and you get to make this call (after all, you're the one ordering the invitations. You have final approval over the proof).