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Please be honest and help me with this

Stephanie, on March 3, 2021 at 10:40 AM

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This is me in my dress attached. I was really not going to alter it at all because i feel like my fiancé wont like it on me anymore. If i make changes that would make the neck line more more low cut. make my chest look more like i have one since im not big in that area at all. Do you think that...
This is me in my dress attached. I was really not going to alter it at all because i feel like my fiancé wont like it on me anymore. If i make changes that would make the neck line more more low cut. make my chest look more like i have one since im not big in that area at all. Do you think that would maybe help me not look or feel so blah in it. I think im just trying so hard to find a way to love this dress i just can't and want to. My goal was look sexy to him and i dont feel it. I honestly as silly as it sounds fear walking down in it.
I think i messed up when i showed him styles of dresses and he said this style looks hideous and i have that stuck in my head still and just can not shake it.cfb_1462359.jpg

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  • T
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    Tina ·
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    Girl you look beautiful watch his face when he sees you in it he’s going to be like that dress is beautiful on you. Men knows nothing about dresses (most of them / good amount).
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  • C
    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    Please be honest and help me with this 1

    So I tried to make this as easy to see as possible- blue follows your current cut and red would be how I'd ask a seamstress to accentuate the mermaid shape by taking it in a little before it connects to the tulle skirt. However this may be a little complicated, I'm not a seamstress. I'd see what they think and I'd nix the idea if it makes it too tight around the knees (mermaid cut dresses cam grave that issue.)


    Look at your waistline though! 😍 Just lovely! Even if the bottom alterations are too complicated (or pricey! They can get so expensive) then I think just fitting it to your body/waist better and adding cups or wearing a pushup would make a huge difference! Definitely get a pushup you like and try your dress again while wearing it? ☺️
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  • S
    Dedicated June 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    Thank you appreciate it
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  • Fred
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    Fred ·
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    Trust me: as a groom, I don't care much about my bride's dress and I'm sure that 99% don't care either.
    She wanted me to love her dress as well. Just told her she's and she will be the most beautiful woman in the world no matter what, . I'm not a poofy style fan (she "educated" me about styles/silouhettes since she wanted me to give an opinion on them) but didn't tell her much (she was upset LOL) , I only wanted her to buy the one she really wanted because I don't care that much ... because I want her to feel like she's beautiful and condident in it ... and because at the end of the day, I won't marry the dress, I'll marry the woman who will be in it .
    I know this is off-topic: but grooms are more opinionated about their bride's hairstyles 😁.
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  • Fred
    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    Sorry I skipped that "he said this style looks hideous": don't worry. He will love it , or at least, he won't dislike it since he loves you and you will be wearing it.
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  • Fred
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    Fred ·
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    You might be right, however it doesnt mean we can't give an opinion 😶, but above all, we don't care much , even those who give an opinion. Brides generally care much about their groom's suit/tux than the groom do about their bride's dress.


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    Stephanie ·
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    Thanks for your feed back as the groom
    That definitely helps hearing from a guy
    I love the hairstyle comment so rhat i should he safe with.
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  • Fred
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    Fred ·
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    You might be right, however it doesnt mean we can't give an opinion 😶, but above all, we don't care that much , even those who give an opinion. Brides generally care much more about their groom's suit/tux than grooms do about their bride's dress.
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    Devoted August 2020
    Tina ·
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    I said that because she said he said it was hideous. If that’s the style she liked and hearing that doesn’t help at all. I don’t want her to feel bad. It looks wonderful on her.


    My husband didn’t understand my explanation on dresses. He had the blankest look on his face. 😂
    Opinions are fine. Never said anything about that. (Only reason I said that is because of the word hideous - don’t want her feeling down)
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  • Fred
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    Fred ·
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    Ok,sorry for the misunderstanding and of course I agree with your post.
    Her husband was rude, I agree and this the reason why I didn't tell my fiancee I don't really like the poofy style". I obviously didn't want her to feel bad ,especially about something that means more to her than it does to me.
    "My husband didn’t understand my explanation on dresses. He had the blankest look on his face. " 😃😄: The good news is: he belongs to the 99% category 🤭.
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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
    Kimberly ·
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    The dress looks great on you! It can be taken in to make it fit a little snugger and that will help you feel better in it. Also, are you wearing a bustier or anything with it in the picture? If not, I’d recommend one. Cups sewn into the dress won’t give you the lift you want. A bustier will give you that lift and it will help with your posture which will help with your confidence!
    But the dress really is beautiful on you and I have no doubt your FH will not even remember he said he didn’t like it to begin with. He won’t even definite the dress when he sees you wearing it.
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  • Bethany
    Dedicated October 2021
    Bethany ·
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    I'm confused because you said two different things here. Are you worried because YOU are feeling uncomfortable in this dress or because you showed it to FH and he said he didn't like it? And if he said he didn't like it, why are you concerned that alterations will make him like it... less? I'm sorry maybe I just need another cup of coffee lol.

    Anyway... I would 100% take it to a seamstress for a consult. You don't have to actually let them do anything if you decide not to, but even a couple tiny adjustments can make a world of difference! An inch in here, a half inch out there, etc. I think it's a beautiful dress but it hasn't been fitted to you yet. Very rarely does the dress fit perfectly right off the rack and if you're ever in your life going to get a garment altered, it should be your wedding dress! I'd also experiment with different bras and shape-wear. Take those with you to your seamstress too!

    Alllll of that said, if you really don't like or feel confident in the dress, find something else. That might seem drastic, but you want to feel beautiful on your wedding day, not self-conscious! If this dress doesn't do it for you, find something that will.

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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    I agree with this. I would not change anything about your dress.

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  • Fred
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    Fred ·
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    Sorry for the misunderstanding and of course I agree with your post.
    Her future husband was rude, I agree and this the reason why I didn't tell my fiancee I didn't really like the poofy style". I obviously didn't want her to feel bad ,especially about something that means more to her than it does to me.
    "My husband didn’t understand my explanation on dresses. He had the blankest look on his face. " 😃😄: The good news is: he belongs to the 99% category 🤭.
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    All good Smiley smile yes lol

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