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kimmyinjapan
VIP September 2016

playing mostly slow songs at reception

kimmyinjapan, on July 3, 2016 at 10:35 PM Posted in Planning 0 41

We are having our wedding at night with lots of romantic lighting and neither one of us are huge party people. I'd like to do mostly slow songs and keep with a romantic theme and be able to socialize with each other without all the loud and fast music, but I was wondering if that sounds boring to anyone? we're having our ceremony at 730 and the reception will last until 1030, so it isn't as long a time period and I have a few activities for people to do as well.

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Latest activity by Nancy Taussig, on July 16, 2016 at 3:19 PM
  • Kari
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    Kari ·
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    Activities for your guests to do? Pray tell...

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  • Jessinlove
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    Jessinlove ·
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    It's obviously up to you but I don't think there will be much dancing going on as not everyone is into slow dancing

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  • nautiwife
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    In all honesty it sounds boring to me. I get that you want a certain feel to your wedding, but it really depends on the activities you have planned. Most wedding I have been to without dancing have been boring.

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  • Loganna
    Super October 2016
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    Personally, I wouldn't like this. It alienates people who don't have dates to dance with, because they can't participate. I love dancing with FH, but after a couple of dances, I also want to find a way to hangout with my other family/friends who are there too. But you know your crowd.

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  • Mrs. RATR
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    Yeah that's boring. I don't go to weddings to sway. I go to CRUMP. And what are your single guests gonna do?!

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  • FutureMrsWhitman
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    I'd say it's best to have a mix of both fast and slow songs. Some people will love slow dancing with their SO and others will prefer to dance to fast song. A good mix will keep the dance floor full.

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  • I_CRE8
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    I'm sorry, but yes--it sounds boring. Are you not wanting any dancing at all? Because that is what is likely to happen. Most people feel awkward slow-dancing--particularly for an extended period. You can have a variety of music and still mingle, while assuring everyone has a good time.

    (And weddings are romantic anyway, so don't worry about trying to create that ambiance.)

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  • Must Love Cats
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    Bad idea. In my honest opinion you need more fast songs than slow songs because not everybody has a partner to dance with.

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  • GymRat
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    You're not huge party people so your solution is to play slow songs all night? Nope. People will be bored.

    And are your guests not huge party people as well or just you two? The reception is about your guests so I'd reconsider that.

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  • N
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    Do you expect your guest to stay more than an hour after dinner? Depending on your venue can have "dance" music without inhibiting talking.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    If you're serving alcohol, people will get happy (you know "wine makes the heart merry"?). Trying to pinpoint your timeline, I'm figuring your guests will head to whatever you've planned after the ceremony at around 8:00 PM. This seems like an abbreviated reception, so maybe you're skipping the cocktail hour. Either way, your guests will have at least one hour on the dance floor. As I said, If you are serving alcohol, a good amount of those guests will want to dance -- and I don't mean melting into each other's eyes and arms and reconnecting emotionally. I mean...dance. Fast, fun, ugly, skilled, who cares what I look like, I love this music...dancing.

    I understand what you're looking for, but that only works when everyone is on the same page; at a wedding reception, ehhh...not likely.

    Punctuate the play list with a few slow, romantic songs, and end the evening with two in a row, but don't make slow dancing and heart rending tunes the theme. Romance is welcomed, especially at a wedding, but so is sweating to the celebration (and I'm almost positive an experienced DJ would tell you the same thing).

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  • Kelsey
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    You don't need activities. In the absence of dance music, guests will likely mingle, drink, and chat.

    Is there any room in your budget for a live band? They will play a broad mix of music, likely tunes everyone knows the words to, and it will keep people dancing without being "dance music" if that makes sense.

    Alternatively, we are having a jazz band play for cocktail hour and dinner, then switching to a DJ. I've also seen string quartets. Since your reception is so short, you could probably get away with instrumental music playing softly in the background while guests mingle. Super romantic, and no one has to hear 6 Sinatra songs in a row (don't get me wrong, I love me some slow songs. But yes, it would get boring if that was the only type of music)

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  • RealLindseyO
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    Activities?

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  • Mrs. Britt
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    I'm more curious about these activities...

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  • MizzzCara
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    When I read this I just imagined a couple people slow dancing just because there was nothing else to do and everyone else falling asleep sitting at tables. Up to you but I think your guests will enjoy themselves more with a mix of songs.

    Yes, what are these activities?

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  • JulyPittsburghBride
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    FH and I aren't huge party people either, and we enjoy a lot of slow songs, so I understand where you're coming from. I've researched (like you're doing--good!) and realized we can incorporate a variety of music, including fast songs, that we actually do like.

    I'd recommend you not stress too much about precise songs. If you've hired quality entertainers (live music or a good DJ), they are skilled at reading your guests and will adjust what they're playing to keep the dance floor full and guests happy. You can provide a list of songs you really like and songs you absolutely don't want to have played, or even specify genres you really like or dislike, and then trust they'll handle their jobs like professionals.

    That way, you have one less thing to stress about. :-)

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  • kbb
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    I'd probably leave early tbh

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  • Kactus Kat
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    Sounds boring to me, but then again our last song of the night was "remix to ignition" so maybe we're just not as romantic? We had a ton of fast music and it was a blast.

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  • ZeldaBride
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    I love to dance! FH.... Not so much. I have no issues dancing by myself to fast tempo music. It's impossible to slow dance by one's self. So yeah, as a guest, I'd be bored.

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  • Private User
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    As a person who doesn't dance and hates having people pressuring me to do so at every wedding I go to, I would like this idea. The only songs I would dance to are slow songs, because it's easier.

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