Planning Session With moh

It depends on what she's offered to help with. My sister is my matron of honor and very much a type A person that LOVES to plan. I told her I planned to send out an email to all the bridesmaids with dress buying guidelines (letting them all choose their own dresses, there are just certain colors to choose from and they need to be full length) and she offered to do it for me. So, I plan to send her all the bridesmaids email addresses and let her have at it. She also has a list of all of their phone numbers for day of contact stuff.

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For my bachelorette we discussed what would location would be a reasonable driving distance for all, what hotel is the most affordable, what dates we can have the bridesmaids vote on, and if we should invite any non-bridesmaids. Once it was all booked - she booked in March 2018, the bachelorette was in June 2018, she figured out who would drive, asked for volunteers for decorations and asked me to decide on restaurants and bars to go to.

For my shower, my mom asked them to vote between 2 dates, and then asked for volunteers for games, prizes, decorations, and favors. Everyone decided what they wanted to take on and did it.

Hope that helps!

I didn't have a sit-down with my maid of honors (I'm having 2), but they have reached out throughout the planning process and asked to help. Most of the planning has been between my FH and I.

I would say, if your maid of honor is willing to help out, you could talk to her about helping you with the little things like wedding favors and little things she can do the day of to take some stress off of you. My sister and my sister-in-law are my MOH's and they asked for a list of stuff I wanted to make sure was in the bridal suite the day of the wedding so we didn't have to run around that morning. Even though I made the list, I am planning on buying the items so they doesn't have to, and the night before if we notice I missed something they said one of them will run out and get it. I also asked them their opinions on our wedding invitations b/c my fiance didn't care what they looked like.

I think it's good to have a planning session with your MOH if she wants to be involved! My Matron of Honor is extremely hands on with planning because she genuinely wants to help me plan my wedding! FH helps with decisions but she helps me with what ideas to present - especially since she's already married so she has some tips & tricks up her sleeve!

To add: I never expected any of my girls to be heavily involved in planning. Their role was to show up and help us celebrate our marriage. All of my girls, though, have brought up our wedding multiple times on their own because they're genuinely interested and want to help plan it!

Did she offer to plan your shower and bachelorette party? Because these are only things you get if someone offers to do it - you don't get to assume they're doing or ask them to do it.

If she did offer, then i think going through dates that work and what kind of guest list (how many people) she is comfortable hosting for both events is good. Then let her plan the events she wants - you shouldn't really be involved in more than the date and providing the invite list.

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She's planning my bridal shower and bachelorette party so we were going to sit down and discuss that.

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That was helpful. Thank you!

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These are good points, thank you

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My bridesmaids want to be crazy involved lol! I was not prepared for it! My FH is very much involved with the wedding planning and wants to be involved in every decision made. But i know the bachelorette party and the bridal shower are stuff that the MOH and my mom were going to take care of and she wanted to sit down and talk about all of that and I just want to make sure we don't forget anything since we're both so busy

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Yeah the bachelorette party and the bridal shower is what we were going to sit down and talk about. She wanted to sit down and discuss ideas and themes and stuff so I wanted to make sure I didn't forget anything and was prepared since we're both really busy. I just felt like I had a list in my head and then when i went to write it down i was like I felt like there was more we needed to talk about

My MOH is my sister so she’s basically been there for it all lol. I was her MOH so we really didn’t have much to discuss. She and my mom planned my shower right away so also didn’t have to discuss this with her lol. We have talked about the bachelorette party and trying to figure out what to do, my accessories for the wedding, hair and makeup, bridesmaid dresses (big one here. We’ve been discussing it for like 2 months). One big thing is color schemes. My FH and I cannot choose because we love like 10 different ones so I’ve been bouncing ideas off of her. So basically I only talk to her about decor stuff and attire, and I only bounce ideas off of her when I feel stuck and just as we go along with the planning. She doesn’t have official responsibilities but she is taking her MOH job very seriously and her husband is deployed so she likes to give herself jobs to keep busy lol. Stuff like the menu I will plan only with my FH, but I will run it by her because she has severe allergies and I don’t want to her to have to bring out the epipen. I know a lot of people think the MOH’s only job is to show up, but that’s not how it works in my family and most of the people I know that have gotten married also didn’t think that way, so involve her in whatever you want to involve her in! It’s a good way to bond even more