Planning my own bridal shower?

With your wedding date being in September you are really way ahead of the game to be planning yet. Technically your shower should be 1-2 months before your date. So at the earliest July. If you have anything special in mind I would send her an email with a couple of ideas to get her imagination going

I wouldn't do it. You already have so much on your plate planning the wedding. At this point if I had to plan my own shower I would opt not to have one. Like literally the only input I was willing to give was the guest list. People have been saying stuff to me about the shower and honestly I didn't even know when the invitations went out.

I thought about that, but if I do plan it for July - invites would have to go out by June. That's 1 month away. I don't want to make my MOH feel bad, though if I have to plan it I need to get on the ball. I'd have to:

- find somewhere to have it

- send out invites

- plan a menu

- plan activities

- find some God forsaken way to pay for it all

I would recommend that you not plan your own. Besides, anyone can throw you a shower - your mom, female relatives, BMs. I'm guessing that as you get closer to the time someone will end up stepping up when they realize your MOH can't do it.

Also, you don't HAVE to have a shower. Planning those things and coming up with the money sounds pretty awful.

@LadyLee - I feel ya. I thought about that, too. If I do it I would have to make it super simple and rely on people to assist (like my mom - don't see much there :-(

I was thinking a recipe party kind of thing: http://www.target.com/Damask-Shower-Invitations-Recipe-Gift/dp/B002DEJ32C

Yeah, I don't have to have a shower. I DO want a shower but I don't have to have one.

There is no one in my family who would throw me a shower besides my MOH. My mom wouldn't do it (unless I did it for her and put it in her name), no sisters, nothing like that. Maybe my male bff...is great about parties and stuff. But even though he's gay he's not going to want to be around the girl gaggle...

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! A bit of information from a Wedding Planner. Traditionally the Maid-of-Honor/Matron-of-Honor hosts the hen's night or bridal shower. My suggesstion would be to gracefully ask your Maid-of-Honor/Matron-of-Honor to host the event for you. If she/he cannot ask another member of your wedding party to assist you in planning this event. As a Bride you are suppose to enjoy all the amenties that comes along with your wedding, including the bridal shower, to take it away is not an option. A bridal shower do not have to be expensive, nor do a lot of food needs to be served. Suggest to the Maid-of-Honor/Matron-of-Honor to be budget savvy (set a small budget) and be creative with the event. Your guest list should also reflex your budget as well here. There are so many cheap and inexpensive ways to save money, but also have a elegant bridal shower. Bridal showers are meant to shower the Bride and celebrate your joy of becoming a Mrs.

Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!

Why don't you give th folks in your life, at your work, at your church a chance??? The shower can be as late as August without causing any undue stress. Relax, sweetie. You have enough on your plate that you MUST be concerned about to worry about a shower.

Here is an idea....My wedding party (ladies and gents) gave me and FH a co-ed shower, where both of us was to attend...It was totally a surprise and i never been to one but i really enjoyed myself. So that leaves it open for the bachelor and bachelorette parties for the both of us....Oh and by the way we wont be having those parties together!!! I know you excited but just wait and see how things plan out for May and if noone steps up, do your own thing....either way im sure it will be great!!

Personally, You can do it yourself if you'd like. But is there a bridesmaid that wants to step up to the plate??? IF not then do it ur self....

I am planning my own. I dont have a MOH or BM...So yeah...I am enjoying it and just sent out the invites yesterday

I like the idea of a co-ed bridal(/groomal?LOL) shower - fh would NOT lol

I really don't think any of my other BMs would do it. one lives in NC and travels a lot, one lives in CA, and the other lives in GA and is broke. (the GA BM thinks that I should wait until the day before the wedding to have a shower...so people are already in town).

That's the other thing, all of my guests are OOT.

Well maybe you could do a combined shower/bachelorette. Everyone being OOT definitely complicates things.

My "MOH" is in AZ where my Wedding will be held. I am in CO and have a bout 15 of my girlfriends that won't be able to make it out to the wedding. We are having a bridal shower the weekend before my wedding here at my new house. I felt super lame that I didn't have anyone here to throw it for me. A sweet friend of mine decided to host it for me here. I know what you mean about wanting one, but not really having someone to do it for you. Luckily one of my friends caught on to my hint and disappointment.

Another consideration: When we threw my friend a bridal shower, we made it a surprise - not sure if this is your friends' style, but that may also be the reason you haven't heard anything about it...

I wouldn't throw myself a shower though - aside from the extra stress of planning a shower on top of planning a wedding (!!!), it also might look bad. As in, a bridal shower was traditionally done to "shower" you with gifts (and advice) in preparation for marriage - if you plan it yourself it could come off like you are asking for gifts.

I would just let your MoH know that you understand if she's too busy or overwhelmed, and if she is then maybe suggest she work with the other bridesmaids to help plan.

I think it's ok for you to plan it and have her host, IF she is ok with it too!

Why not?!

Two of my bms didn't want me to do anything.

My sis, who actually knew that I was picky, wanted me to have a lot of input though but ultimately that did not happen.

And those two bms, who had babies, actually didn't have time. So in the end, my shower was just ok and just done very quickly.

But still good enough really!!!