Planning During covid --family concerns

I would still try to plan for a fall 2021 wedding. i know everything is so uncertain at the moment. but i wouldn't want to try to wait until there's a vaccine because well there's no telling when that is gonna happen anyway and i don't think i'd want to get married much later on when i think it could be safe to - because there's no way of accurately predicting any of this. you just have to kind of go on with your planning or life regardless of it.

but i understand your mother's situation and that you'd want her to be there. if your mom can't physically make it maybe she can view it at home OR maybe you can do a separate celebration with her before or after. or maybe you can even do a small elopement ceremony with her present limiting the amount of people there and then do a larger wedding celebration later on when you feel it's safer to or without her present.

I’m gonna be very blunt here but there may never be a vaccine. We just dont know. There are a lot of viruses we never approved a vaccine for- HIV, SARS1, EBOLA. While experts are hopeful, its not guaranteed. I would contine planning for 2021 and hopefully things will be much better by then.

I agree with what the others have said. It’s very hard to accept but even if there is a vaccine, how many people are willing to try something that hasn’t shown what the long term effects are? Heck, a lot of people still don’t get the flu shot! So if you push it back based on a vaccine that may never come or that does but fails to get her immunity, you may be pushing it back for years.

You’re wedding is nearly a year away. If she’s waiting on a vaccine, then you’d have to postpone indefinitely, since there’s no telling when it will be developed.

Keep planning, you have plenty of time and I feel pretty confident that things will improve way before then. Let yourself get through the holidays this year and refocus

If you are planning for Fall 2021 thats extremely far out. Try to plan as if everything will be normal by then and worst case scenario you can postpone or adjust your plans when it gets closer. But worrying about this so far out will only make you feel worse. I know its easier said than done but I really think you have plenty of time

I'm in a similar situation. We had our wedding planned for 10/10/2020, but have posted to 10/9/2021. My dad and my sister are both high risk, and live 1400 miles away. We are considering traveling to them and doing a small ceremony this year, but even that has risks, and my dad isn't sure he will be comfortable with it, and he's not sure about 2021 either.
If I were in you shoes, I would start planning for fall 2021, but pay careful attention to rescheduling and canceling sections of any contracts you sign. If you don't start planning for 2021 now, you may have a very hard time finding a venue and other vendors since so many weddings are being postponed.

Hi Brenna,

I agree with all of the recommendations above! I would continue planning for your fall 2021 wedding. There is so much time between now and then! If you end up having to postpone, at least you will have most of your details squared away.

I can't wait to hear what you decide.

Sending lots of love your way!