Planning Bachelorette stress

I agree. I would be mortified if I felt I was putting financial strain on my bridal party. It's time to speak up and offer a nice local alternative. Or at least something less expensive. Bar hopping down town is fun. Destination bachelorettes shouldn't be a requirement.

First off, I think it's really nice of your to plan your best friend's bachelorette party, and after reading some of the threads on here, it's more than most women receive from their MOH. However, with your wedding being in just a little over a year away, I'm sure she would understand that a destination bachelorette is just not in your budget. I would definitely sit down and discuss local, more budget-friendly places you guys could go - especially if it's only going to be 3 of you. Put it this way, she's getting married this year and most likely won't have it in her budget to do a destination bachelorette party for you either.

I would definitely talk to your friend and explain the situation. Maybe she can come up with an easier-to-execute plan for her bachelorette.

I agree with everyone else. I think you need to talk to the bride honestly and tell her that it is just to much money and causing you to much stress.

That is a lot of money! Even more so when you have your own wedding and want to buy a house!

Am I the only one that thinks $200 for lodging for an entire weekend isn't bad at all? My pockets aren't deep by any means, but if you're planning to rent a house that seems like a pretty good deal.

Anyway, that aside. You can only afford what you can afford - I'd agree with everyone and say you should just sit down and have a little heart-to-heart and make sure she knows you want to do this thing for her, but you also have important expenses of your own to consider and you simply can't swing it. You shouldn't feel stressed, and you might be pleasantly surprised by her reaction... and a good alternative can be made for something a little easier on the wallet.

I think it adds up. $200 just for the house. I assume they'll be going out to restaurants and bars. Then the cost of transportation. I'd rather spend the bar-restaurant money locally.

I'm not sure how going away for a bachelorette party became a thing but I think it's too much to ask anyone to spend. I've heard of ladies flying to Las Vegas and Puerto Rico (I'm in NY) and I wonder where the heck they are getting the money for these extravagant weekends plus BM dress, shower and wedding gift. My niece was a BM for 4 weddings one year and it was costing her thousands.

I think having a frank conversation with her is appropriate. Make sure you have a few alternative suggestions. I think requesting to go to beach town in the height of the season over the weekend is a little thoughtless, IMO. My husband and I were looking for a weekend getaway in summer on the east coast and we couldn't find anything for less than $480/night and many hotels required a 3 night stay.

Oh I totally realize that it's more than just lodging expense involved. I've been on lots of destination bachelorettes - it's pretty normal in our circles. Don't take me the wrong way, I was only commenting on the price of lodging for the weekend. More people would make it easier to split of course but I wouldn't be inviting people just to bring costs down, for sure.

In any case, like I said - you can't swing it, you can't swing it. There is nothing wrong or horrible about that and you just need to gently let your bride know that you can only plan something within your means. If she is set on this thing, then she can throw in.

My bridal party and I are going there for my bachelorette. My MOH and I wanted to make it as affordable as possible so we booked at The Beach Plaza Hotel. They have apartments that fit 8 people (we're squeezing 10). The girls aren't making me pay, so they are each paying $90 each for 2 nights. If only 3 girls can go you guys can just get a regular room and they're affordable as well!

Side note: we're doing OCMD because most of us live in NJ but 2 girls live in VA so its an equal driving distance for all!

I think destination bach parties are ridicules, unless everyone involved is wealthy enough to easily afford it. It's just too much to ask of your bridal party IMO. It's up to you and the BM's what you can afford, so I would simply plan based on the budget. The bride shouldn't be dictating a party that is thrown in her honor anyway.

I don't think $200 is bad but its not my money. You tell her no, she doesn't get to call the shots with this. Stay local and take her out, maybe get a hotel suite to crash in.

Can you push the date to September? I'm planning my friends bach in OC, MD too. My wedding is the end of September and hers is three weeks later. We ended up picking the weekend after Labor day as lodging seemed slightly cheaper and there will still be plenty of nightlife going on. I'm a little stressed about having to plan/pay for my wedding the same month as a bach party but at the end of the day - my BF only gets married once (HOPEFULLY!) and this might be the last time we get to do a fun weekend before she settles down and has babies.

I would honestly talk to her about the situation. Maybe you all can talk and figure out something else to do that won't be so expensive. I don't know how far you all are from where she is wanting to go but I would go somewhere more local. Like a city you all are closer to. It'll be cheaper and if it's a city you all haven't been to fun to explore.

I never turn down a destination bachelorette party, I love my girls trips, but I would not break the bank for one. I would def speak to the bride and let her know your concerns. If one of my BM's spoke up about anything in my wedding causing stress to her, I would correct it right away!