Planned Wedding but Decided to Elope

You Can Send Out Cards Explaining The Cancelation , You Dont Really Owe An Explanation But Just Let The Guests You Invited Know That Its Canceled. Also Make Sure You Dont Lose Money By Canceling Your Vendors.

We originally planned to elope and have a big wedding later. That turned into us having a minimony this October and our big wedding in March. I didn't want to possible regret not having a big day, then once I started planning I knew that a big wedding was exactly what I as well as my fiance wanted. What about eloping and having a big reception next year?

Yes, I have. It was easy telling everyone because no one cared except for my grandma. Best decision and we'll be saving so much money.

Eloped with 7 people in attendance in an outdoor garden ceremony for $250. Catering from soul food restaurant for $350. Alcohol was $100. Made my bouquet from Roses at Walmart for $10. So affordable and we still had a great time. I would do this all over again. Def send our announcement cards to those that you invited that you're cancelling and eloping instead, and maybe send out an announcement card once you are married so people know too. Up to you. Covid had us change our plans. Originally was a 92 person wedding. Went to 7. Really showed us what mattered and how a 7 person wedding is just as beautiful as a 92 person one

That was our original plan until I realized there were family members that may not make it that far out and I'd hate for them to miss it in any way shape or form. It slowly started becoming a bigger wedding. I still have those thoughts but now it's like we've spent so much money already and lost so much money already with cancelling other wedding plans.

If it's really what you want, go for it. Just let them know what you decided and you think it's for the best. You don't really owe anyone an explanation. If you care to do so, you can let them know you will have a celebratory reception later down the road. Whatever you do, I hope you're happy and have a beautiful day!

You can elope and still have the bigger event if that is what you want to do. If you've already paid a significant amount in deposits for vendors, its worth considering, especially if others (your husband, family, etc) are invested in having a larger wedding. However, if you don't want a big wedding at all you don't have to have one at all.

We planned a modest (60-80 person wedding) and were forced into a 10 person elopement due to Covid-19. I didn't want to wait to be married and there were some other factors as well. However, we had already paid roughly 20-25% of the cost of our wedding on deposits that were non-refundable, so instead of outright canceling, we postponed for next year. If we can freely gather and hug and dance without masks next year, we'll have our bigger celebration then. If not, we'll see whether our vendors will let us push things out another year or decide then if we want to cancel. If you've already invested a significant amount of time and money on the larger event, there is no reason to give up on it completely if you don't want to. You can still do a more intimate elopement now and have a bigger event later.

Nothing wrong with eloping; People will especially understand due to the circumstances! I am in the same boat. Decided to just getting married with our parents and my fiancé's sister. We have been waiting for far too long and want to just move forward at this point!

Covid gives you the perfect opportunity to just say sorry and do what makes you both happy.

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View Quoted Comment That is what my original thought was, but my fiancé doesn’t want to.

View Quoted Comment That’s great!! Thank you so much!

View Quoted Comment That is beautiful! I absolutely love it. Thank you so much for the feedback. ❤️

View Quoted Comment We would probably lose around $3000 if we cancel and decide to elope. I think that is why it’s hard for us to make this decision. Thank you so much Jasmine for your feedback, it means a lot.❤️❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment That is what my original thought was because we already paid for probably 25% of our vendors as well. My fiancé doesn’t like the idea of eloping and having a larger event later down the road. I totally respect his opinion on that. He was the one that was wanting to elope in the beginning and I was the one that wanted this elaborate wedding. However, I’m at the point now that I just want to be his wife. ❤️

View Quoted Comment I love it! Congratulations! I’m so indecisive so I’m still thinking about it.

View Quoted Comment So true. Thank you. ❤️

View Quoted Comment No problem! I definitely know the feeling of losing money. With all our previous cancelations, we've lost between 7k and 8k due to stupid reasons BUT if eloping. I'm still crying over it lol. Maybe talk to your venue and see if you can still hold JUST the reception on your 2021 wedding date that way you won't miss out financially.

View Quoted Comment Aweee I love it!! I was thinking the exact same thing, but my fiancé doesn’t really want to.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness, I couldn’t even imagine. I’m so sorry! I will definitely reach out to her! She has been so understanding and accommodating so I’m sure it wouldn’t be an issue ❤️

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I was also in fear of losing all my deposits so instead we went from small wedding to a wedding of only 20, the deposits satisfied most vendors and we didn't need to dish out much more. Some vendors didn't require even a cent more. Now we are only inviting our top 20 basically and telling the rest, "so sorry, coz of Covid, you know etc etc."