Picky about music played by dj

Not at all! i'm pretty picky with that too! I have a DO NOT play list of artists and songs I don't want played. If the DJ wants the gig they'll go along with your wishes

Maybe create a playlist of the songs you're wanting to help them? If they want the job bad enough they will just download the songs/music you want and play it. I gave my DJ a list of ceremony songs, but I'm leaving everything else up to him. I love several genres of music so I'm not too picky on what he plays. He's done several weddings and I trust him to play music my guests will enjoy.

For the amount of money you spend on a wedding, I don't think you're expecting too much to want specific genres/songs played. If you still want to go the DJ route, be upfront when you interview DJs that you have very specific desires and explain that you'd be most comfortable being able to build out the playlist with them.

That said, part of being a good professional DJ is about reading the room to get a sense of what will get the crowd on the dance floor, so I would hear them out and let them have some input/flexibility if you're going to spend the money on one. If you're not comfortable with that, then I would go the playlist route.

Good luck!

My FH and I both aren't into much "radio" popular music either, so we are going to have our DJ play some of our favorites, but we also had to realize that people will enjoy popular songs much more, so we are letting our DJ play some of those songs to get our guests up and dancing as well. We want our guests to enjoy the reception!

I find it odd that DJs are not letting you do what you want? My DJ gives us a whole list of suggestions then wants a list of to be played songs and do not play songs/artists. They should be able to get anything. But maybe the ones you are speaking to don't have access to everything possibly? I would also keep in mind that it's not all about your tastes... It's for your guests. So be wary of playing too much of songs/genres that nobody is into.

My husband and I are picky about music and honestly I REGRET having a DJ. We wrote a list of songs we really wanted played and gave an idea of the type of music our guests would enjoy, because no DJ lets you have TOTAL control or else there wouldn't be much of a point to their job. He skipped a lot of songs that we always imagined having played at our wedding and even played some newer music that we recommended he didn't. And guess what... everyone left the dance floor when those newer songs were played. If I could go back, I would have made a playlist, rented good speakers and paid a family member or friend to MC for the necessary announcements.

No, I don't think you're expecting too much. You just haven't found the right DJ. What area of the country are you in? It might be helpful to reach out on Facebook, for recommendations. Our DJ said he could play pretty much anything we want. He already has an extensive music collection, but even if we want something he doesn't already have, he said he could get it. So, I'm not sure why your DJ isn't telling you that. I would shop around for another DJ. If you're in California, message me and I'll give you our guy's name.

You aren't being too picky. The company I am using actually has a whole portal where I can be as specific or general as I want. Artists songs or genres I want and don't want, how many of each genre, the time of each song.... With digital music these days, I can't see any reason why anyone wouldn't be able to give you exactly what you want.

Hi Sashenka!

Welcome to the WeddingWire community

Great advice from all the previous posters!

When you meet a DJ you like, perhaps speak with them about your concerns. Hopefully, you can find someone that will work with you to create a setlist with music you and your FS, along with tunes to keep guests dancing!

Have you had any luck finding someone you and your FS like yet?