Picking wedding dates

View Quoted Comment Yes he picked the date and we said two yrs out would be enough time

View Quoted Comment My finance is big in numbers

We chose the time of year we would like to get married together, It was a mutual agreement and we both compromised. Then we chose the date by which Saturdays the venue had available. At one of the venues that we loved, we were told we were going to have to book 2 years in advance for a Saturday in the fall. Ideally, we wanted October but the closest they could do was the first weekend of November. We chose to continue looking for other options.

We came up with 2 dates and went over it with my parents due to them helping paying for half... So we got engaged in June 2019 and June we have like 10 birthdays. We knew we wanted a summer wedding. We loved 4th of July so we said either July 4,2020 or July 10, 2021. My parents wanted to push more to 2021 to help save up for all of us and it was meant to be because two weeks later we finally got accepted on our house! so 2019 went towards house and 2020 started wedding planning so it worked out.

Choosing our date had a lot of thought / planning involved.

This is FH's 2nd marriage and he has a son who will be 10.

Things we had to consider: school schedules including school breaks, extracurricular activities, my work / travel schedule, holidays (definitely avoid), summer avoidance (his first was on Flag day)... so basically we were left with son's fall break in October (because our fall break was almost sabotaged by his ex last year, we were careful not to pick the same dates). So we looked at the dates available and 10.10.20 was a winner... It sounded "fun," easy to remember, avoidance of immediate holidays, son did not have to miss school, son was born in 2010, he'll be 10, and lastly 10 + 10 = 20. It all just flowed together.

How's that for our wedding date logic

I picked our date. We met and began dating in May. I loved the 3 day weekend anniversary for the rest of our lives 😂 So I picked a 3 day weekend in May.....May 23 Saturday of Memorial day weekend our families will be in party mode with extra time off from work already. Amazing😀

Our venue was already filling up for October 2021 and I really wanted an October wedding. So we just picked the next open date that our venue had that month. Nothing really significant behind it besides it's my favorite month and also my favorite season. FH didn't really care when we had it haha

We discussed the date together and came to an agreement on the final choice. Generally speaking, the date is entirely up to the two of you and no one else. That being said, if said family has a good reason to request you changing your preferred date (say, because they already know can't attend on the date you want and you really want them to be there), then you can consider their request.

Pick a date together. Here’s ours 8/8/2020. When we met it was Feb 8th. He proposed to me exactly 5 years later in the same spot we met. So our number is 8. I consider it to be a lucky number. So 8/8/2020 has a really nice ring to it.

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They don't need to be happy about an inconvenient wedding date, but you still get to pick the date that works best for you and your FI. You just have to accept that it's inconvenient for other people and that may affect their ability and/or willingness to attend your wedding, and you may have a smaller turnout.

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No matter how far out your wedding is, you're making a choice that is inconvenient for some people and that will likely affect turnout. Many people won't travel for a mid-week wedding for anybody except their closest family members, and even then they might be upset about having to take extra days off work and use limited PTO on your wedding just because of the choice you made to have a Tuesday wedding rather than a Friday, Saturday, or Sunday wedding. It's fair of them to feel that way, though it's not fair of them to harass you about it. Friends who can't make it work or can't afford to attend (yes, even with two years notice they may not be able or willing to devote their financial resources to that) will just decline, but it puts family in a tougher spot.

He just wanted it to be cold out. I picked the day, 1.23.21 though Friday 1.22.21 was also tempting. It's kind of a fun date, I'd been considering a Sunday date but our venue DJ and photography ended up being same cost either day. I wish I had the budget for an outdoor fall wedding but winter is my second favorite season. Fingers crossed we get light snow that day.