Picking wedding dates

We picked our date together. If my family was opposed to the date I would want to understand why but would likely still pick my date unless there was a really good reason.

My husband chose it because it worked best for his work schedule

It was both of our wedding so we picked the date. We didn't have a specific date, so we really just chose a season and then picked a Saturday that our chosen venue had available.

View Quoted Comment Our date is on a Tuesday and in the winter. My family is used to traditional dates- fri,sat or sundays

View Quoted Comment My fiancé picked our date because that’s the only thing he wanted to do

My fiancé’s one main request was that our date was between mid-October through mid-March. I narrowed it down to October or November and then checked to see when our venue and preferred DJ were available. We decided November 14, 2020!

Our venue gave us their available dates and that’s how we chose. They also had cheaper dates so that definitely helped!

View Quoted Comment Well it is your wedding so you should be able to have it when you want it.

We only knew we wanted to get married on a Saturday from June to early October so we found a venue we liked and picked a date. Noone in our family gave us a date not to pick, if they did it would have to be a really good reason especially because we booked over a year out

View Quoted Comment That’s how I truly feel... they should be happy no matter what

We had to pick a date when both of my kids who are in the navy could come. We knew it had to be after September 16 in case my son made chief. My fiancé said he knew when to pick so he wouldn’t forget. He looked it up on the calendar and it was a Saturday. Oct 10 was picked because it is the anniversary of him joining the navy, 41 years ago.

We would’ve loved to pick our anniversary date, but it’ll be chilly where we live and we wanted a more summer type of wedding. We just looked at the dates our venue offered and chose from there. We decided it’s us that makes the date special, so it didn’t really matter what date we chose. Plus, we can celebrate two anniversaries every year lol

We wanted something over the spring/summer with some numerical pattern. We also knew it would have to be a Saturday so our families could attend. 6/12/21 stood out and happens to be a month before our 5 year mark of being together.

Does the majority of your guests have to travel to your wedding or are most local? I’d think given the time you are giving them and as long as most are local they should be able to take one day off for your wedding. Honestly though given the time you have until your wedding (2022- if that’s accurate) people have plenty of time to request off and/or save money to travel for
your wedding. Don’t cave to the naysayers, of the date is special to you and FH then stick with it.

Also, I 100% approve of your date. It’s my birthday!

Oh! I forgot to add my FH and I chose our date together. He has teenage twins who will be seniors in high school next year and I have a young daughter that will be in 4th grade so we knew we had to do something when school was out. We didn’t want summer though because we live in and wanted to get married in the south and well humidity. So we opted for the weekend before Spring Break starts.

We wanted off-season for the best rates but warmest month possible: March. We wanted the last Monday but then it got booked, so March 20 it was, which was spring equinox! Because it was a DW and a Monday, we checked with our 15 guests and everyone said they would go.

The owner of our venue said that mid-July was best for wild flowers and weather, so I picked the middle weekend! Numbers are usually important to me, but for some reason this time I didn't care! I'm just realizing this. Weird.

We picked the date ourselves, but considered family vacations, business trips, and venue availability as our main conflicts.

On a personal level, we also considered baseball playoffs (we're huge fans, and this immediately condemned our team to missing the playoffs), friends' anniversaries, and such.

It's a delicate balance, but if you keep your lines of communication *very* clear, you'll figure it out!

FH suggested the date, but it was very much a team effort. It’s a meaningful date so I would have a hard time changing it unless my family had a very compelling reason for objecting to the date.

So our dating anniversary is 10/2/13. His parents anniversary is 10/2 and his brother and SIL's is 10/3. Our preference was definitely an October wedding but the first weekend, which would have been 10/3, was out due to work. FH is a firefighter and because of this, only every third Saturday (an off day for his shift) worked for him if he wanted all of his guys to be there. That left us with 10/10 or 10/31. Halloween was definitely out for us so we chose 10/10. This was the date we requested to get availability on when we looked at venues but we weren't so set on it that we would have passed on a venue we really liked. There was one that we almost chose that had a September date available. Then we went and toured the one we chose and we loved it, the location was better, AND they had our preferred date open