Picking a Flower Girl/ring Bearers

I had a bunch of nieces and nephews to choose from and my MOH's daughter (will be 12) asked her mom if she was going to be a flower girl, but I'm going with FH's oldest niece who will be 9 as flower girl. My niece who will be 12 is a junior bridesmaid. FH's 5 year old nephew will be a ring/sign bearer, he's wild so definitely not giving him real rings. Not using any of the really little ones that will be 22 months, 13 months, and 3 months or my sister's future step-son who is the same age as my junior bridesmaid (because if it's his mom's weekend he won't be there). Other than the step son, we've been around these kids whole lives. FH and I started dating a month before my nieces 1st birthday.

I wouldn't use 2 out 4 of the cousin's kids because you may hurt the feelings of the other 2, maybe have the girl be the flower girl and all 3 boys be "ring security" or 1 be a ring bearer and the other 2 hold signs?

We are having 2 flower girls, 1 junior bridesmaid, and 2 ring bearers because we had difficulty picking between all of the kids. FH has a niece and nephew and my cousin has 3 children who are basically my nieces and nephew. He felt he couldn't leave out his side of the family and I felt the same with my side of the family. Our flower girls will be 4 and 6 at the wedding, junior bridesmaid will be 9, and the ring bearers will be 2 and 7. Ultimately, do whatever option feels right to you and your FH.

My FG’s are the little girl I nanny (10 years old) and my cousin who will also be ten by June. My ring bearers will be my male cousins (7 and 8). I wouldn’t go any thing younger than 4 myself because every wedding I have been too that has the kids younger, get half way down the aisle- realize everyone is watching them- run back up the aisle and start crying.

We picked my 3 little cousins, 2 girls, 1 boy, to be our flower girls and ring bearer. My H has no little kids on his side, otherwise we would have included someone from his family as well. Our FGs were 4 and 7, and our RB was 9. I think ages 2-10 are fine for these roles. I probably wouldn't choose your friends' kids, I feel like it's a bigger ask than asking family.

I'll be asking my niece and FH's 2 grandkids. (a boy and a girl.) 6,5, and about 4. I think if there aren't kids that you are really close to that would be an obvious choice, better to not have any at all.

Our 2 ring bearers (my nephew & FH's nephew) will be 6 y.o. at the time of the wedding, and our flower girls will be 4 (FH's niece), 8 (daughter), & 10 (my niece).. I don't think there is a set 'age' that is appropriate or not appropriate for these roles, you just have to do what works best for you! I was a little hesitant to make my 10 y.o niece a flower girl instead of a junior bridesmaid, but it made the most sense for us!

I would suggest including all of the children if possible, that way you don't have any feeling left out!

I am literally asking all of the little girls in my life to be flower girls. As I like to tell people "I want an army of flower girls (and boys)" Minimum age is usually 3, younger than that and you may end up with a rogue flower girl. Oldest is usually 10, after that they are really junior bridesmaids. That being said, all of my flower girls and boys will be between 3 and 7.

First off, choose these roles based on who you WANT to be there that day. If you're not close with your cousin or her kids, then I wouldn't ask them just because her kids are an acceptable age. Pick kids you know or kids with parents you're closer to.

Second, I personally think any kid under age 10 is good. Once they're older than 10 they don't really scream "ringbearer" or "flower girl" anymore. I have two bridesmaids who each have a daughter around 2-3yo. I've known both girls their whole lives and want to include them. I think they're a good age because they both can walk and - kind of - follow direction. I'm going to have them walk with their moms down the aisle just in case there are any issues, and then they'll sit with their dads during the ceremony so their moms can stand with me.

I don't really know any little boys or have any close friends with little boys, so we're passing on the ringbearer and just having the BM hold the rings.

I was a FG at 10 so I don’t think 8 is too old. Also, you don’t NEED a FG and RB and you can have one or the other or multiple.

I chose to ask my niece and nephews. So we will have 1 FG (7) and 2/3 RBs (4 and 2.5, possibly 1.5 if he wants to). They are the only kids invited to our wedding, FH has no nieces/nephews and mine love him!

Also my friend had no boys in her family and lots of girls so they asked all 7 girls to be FGs and they all said yes they walked out in groups of 2 and 3 - it was very cute.

Hownstly if I didn’t have nieces and nephews, I would probably have no FG or RB.