Physical Invitations vs Digital

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I've been a bridesmaid in 3 weddings and a Maid of Honor in one. I don't remember what they're invitations looked like and just stuck them in a box. If you're main concern is that I didn't want to waste paper and my money and instead wanted you to have some nice steak and an open bar then I guess you'll just have to be upset. I also do not have parents or grandparents alive. So I just don't feel the need to for the sake of OTHER people not paying for my beautiful wedding on a nature preserve to waste my money on invites.

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View Quoted Comment I have been to over 15 weddings and i have kept all the invites and info from each one!! (I am 32yrs old)

View Quoted Comment Wow, that is impressive, I hope you’re not a hoarder jk 😆 I am also 32 😊

I did both - paper for older adults and digital for the younger and tech savvy guests

We used paperless post for our invitations because we didn’t want to spend a bunch of money on paper that goes into the trash. It turned out to be super helpful during times of COVID. We were able to send out updates easily and regularly to provide information on any new protocols we were putting in place without any additional cost. We had a few guests ask us about dress code to which we responded semi formal. If I were to resend them, I would include the dress code on the invitation. Good luck!

People hardly rsvp anymore the old fashion way, they end up calling or t texting to do so. Many don’t actually keep invites either (unless it’s your mother or close family), hell some people have even told me they lost an invitation! With that said it could be seen as a waste of money. Since most are doing micro weddings now, if that’s the case for you, save your money and do digital ! You can track rsvps and send reminders all online.

We did physical ones for our destination wedding plans; and when that plan went down the drain due to COVID; we sent out electronic invites for our micro wedding in New Jersey.


With all the uncertainty and changes; I feel like it’s best to go electronic so your able to make changes on the invite !

View Quoted Comment Honestly I agree; please do whatever you want and the people who are dear to you will not judge and will be honored their invited in the first place (whether digital or physical).

View Quoted Comment Lol no not a hoarder.. but i have wanted marriage since i was 5 years old (knew one day that was my goal to get married) so i kept every invite and piece about each wedding And (once home) making a list of what i did and didnt like from each one, taking notes for when i would plan my own wedding.. and keeping invites to work out the wording or formality of such... for me it has been very helpful ... along with reading a bunch of posts on here to learning what to do/not to do..

My sister did paper invites. All of my friends did paper. Fiancée one friend sent paper only to older family but made the rest of us respond via website.


I'm planning on few paper (I'm a scrap book person and like tangible things for memory sake) but with how small the wedding will be it'll be maybe 30 at most. However they will respond to a website cause let's face it postage is super expensive and not everyone sends the cards back and you get stuck calling them or messaging them via Facebook or text to get a response.
Honestly do what you want.

In my opinion, weddings should have formal invitations mailed to the guests. Digital invitations are meant for backyard BBQ's.

View Quoted Comment Oh wow... well, bottom line is - you can always print out a digital invite if this were the case 😂 I hope your wedding is everything you have noted and more! 🤍

Like many have mentioned, you could always print out a few invites for family members that are sentimental. I wouldn't assume a wedding is casual just because I got an electronic invitation! If you have the correct wording and specify the wedding attire, then you should have no problem.

If electronic invitations are what you want, then do that! It saves money and is less waste in the long run.

We're not printing out wedding programs, or adding the extra cards in our invites for this exact reason. They're just going to get thrown away lol, especially when people have access to the internet and prefer to RSVP online.

View Quoted Comment Omg I just told my fiancé that we should make paper programs ONLY because we having an outdoor wedding the beginning of summer in the south. So we are going to make them fans. Other then that we were thinking of not printing out programs too.

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Fan programs for a summer wedding is a great idea because you still get use out of them! I've been to one that had those and really appreciated them as a guest!

Guests will look at them one time to read names and then throw them away. Not worth the money imo!

I'm currently trying to decide the same thing, I'm leaning towards paper invites for the likes of our mothers, grandmothers and close family. Then doing digital for cousins and friends etc.

View Quoted Comment AND what i learned from these forums:
1: Don't have a bridal party: they only cause drama that includes flower girls and ring bearers
2: dont talk about your plans for your theme too much, and dont let people weasel their say into it: it’s about the bride and groom (as me and my boyfriend are paying for the whole thing, we say what goes/who comes and thats that.) (there is Sooo much drama on here about that)

I don’t think it’s tacky at all! It saves paper & money (win, win)! The only downside may be that older guests may not be tech-savvy enough to find the invite online/via email. Even then, someone could always help them out. I say go for it! People could always print out the digital invite if they want it for a keepsake.