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Savvy October 2021

Physical Invitations vs Digital

Yvonne, on November 22, 2020 at 5:23 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 39
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Hi Brides! I wanted to get your perspective on doing physical invitations vs digital. My fiance and I aren't really keen on wasting paper and spending money on invitations when we can just do digital ones. I understand the draw of having a physical one for keepsakes and it's considered "tacky" to not do actual invitations. But I wonder if I'll have regrets after. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Alexa, on November 24, 2020 at 10:50 AM
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    Expert September 2020
    Alli
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    So, my H and I are super eco-friendly. We did a save the date postcard and provided our wedding link on it. We refused to send multiple sheets of paper (invitations) out.
    Everyone who knows us knows it is not about the money at all, but rather being aware. 馃尦 I say do whatever you two want 馃
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    Super July 2017
    Becky
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    It depends on the formality of your event. If you're having an event in your backyard or a park, then you don't need formal (that is to say paper) invitations. However, if you're having a more formal event (or an evening event) correct etiquette indicates the necessity of a posted invitation. However, you can have people RSVP online, and you do not need to do Save the Dates at all.

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  • Krista
    Dedicated April 2020
    Krista
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    For every wedding I鈥檝e attended I鈥檝e brought the physical invitation for reference if anything goes wrong. I鈥檝e been in places without service and having the physical address has helped a lot. I also love keeping them as well and I know a lot of older people like them as well. There are some pretty inexpensive ones out there. I don鈥檛 think you need to have a complicated set with return envelopes, pick a song choice, or dinner options if all of that can be conveyed on the website.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine
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    For our minimony we did electronic invites but for our big wedding we will be doing physical invitations. But I agree with you completely, it's 2020 and it's YOUR wedding, do what you want. I'm sure some people will respond saying it's not good etiquette blah blah blah, but we're you don't have to follow what people did traditionally hundreds of years ago. Do what you want and what makes you happy for your big day!
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  • Maggie
    Dedicated July 2022
    Maggie
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    If you'd prefer to do digital invitations, go for it! You may get some side eye, but honestly I don't think paper vs. digital invitations will make a big difference in the grand scheme of things. You can resend them whenever you need to for free if someone deletes it by accident, and anyone who prefers to have a physical copy can print it out themselves 馃し馃徎鈥嶁檧锔. Traditions evolve, and honestly no one can really argue with you wanting to save paper.
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  • Jessica
    Dedicated February 2021
    Jessica
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    Guests expect an actual invitation and it sets the tone for the type of wedding your having. No actual invitation says very 鈥渃asual鈥 to me...
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  • Ashley
    Just Said Yes January 2022
    Ashley
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    I think you should do really nice physical invitations for the people in your family who like mother father grandparents, your very close family. Whoever you know would cherish it because it鈥檚 a very classy thing to do...for your friends and young family members who u feel wouldnt really care, I think an online invitation is very acceptable
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  • Corrin
    Dedicated October 2021
    Corrin
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    We're doing what Ashley mentioned - my family and some of my FH's old professors in particular really want the formal invitation so we're sending out like a total of 15 formal invites (out of like 80 invites).

    All my other friends are getting digitals because I highly doubt they care about a formal invitation with like 4 different pieces of paper.

    Plus it saves a decent amount. Invitations are way more expensive than I thought....

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    VIP October 2022
    Michelle
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    I agree with this. I would assume it was very casual or you forgot to buy invites and the event is canceled.
    This is an etiquette thing that is completely different from tradition, so it does not change over the course of time at your choosing nor for a pandemic or otherwise.

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated February 2021
    Jessica
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    I 馃挴 agree. Invitations are a MUST!
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
    Jasmine
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    I鈥檓 with you... any and everyone can say that it鈥檚 more classy, better etiquette, whatever. But the truth is it鈥檚 VERY wasteful. I think that if there is a less expensive and more importantly an eco friendly way of doing wedding invitations. It needs to become encouraged. Nothing wrong with a new normal, 2020 has shown us that.
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    Master July 2019
    Veronica
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    I think it depends on the formality of the event. If you are having a very casual event then I think you can get away with doing e-vites, but anything beyond casual I would say a physical invite in a must.

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  • Yvonne
    Savvy October 2021
    Yvonne
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    It does change at my choice because I'm paying for it in the end. And etiquette is rooted in tradition. And if you are invited to my wedding you know me and know that my wedding will not be casual just because I chose to have digital invites instead of wasting money on pretty paper.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring Online
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    I prefer digital invitations. They are cheaper and eco friendly.
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  • Yvonne
    Savvy October 2021
    Yvonne
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    Thank you. I don't think an e-vite wedding invitation denotes the formality of the wedding. It tells you what the formality is in the text. I think it's wasteful considering everything we do is digital now and I don't want to do double the duty of utilizing my online aisle planner that my wedding coordinator and every wedding planning platform uses. I'd rather re-route that money to something more meaningful in my opinion. It seems "etiquette" in the sense of wedding invites is just code for "snobbery".

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  • Yvonne
    Savvy October 2021
    Yvonne
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    Thank you. I'd rather use that money for the actual event than on invitations that people are just gonna stick in a box for years to come.

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    Expert September 2020
    Alli
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    I agree with this 100%. Doing digital invitations did not make my extremely magical, elegant wedding any less and I truly feel for people with such an old school mind set. Every invitation we receive goes straight into the recycle 鈾伙笍 馃う馃徎鈥嶁檧锔廠he never said no invite, she said digital invite. Same information.
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  • A
    Expert September 2020
    Alli
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    I don鈥檛 know one person who has kept someone鈥檚 wedding invitation lol
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring Online
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    Right! Many will throw the invitation away once the event has happened.
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  • Jasmine
    Devoted May 2021
    Jasmine
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    That鈥檚 so true, not about all wedding etiquette but definitely in this case. Even if you have grandparents or great grandparents that don鈥檛 really use email, you can print out invitations for just them. We are talking about 2 or 4 invitations vs 150!
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