Photographer suggested heels? Bride and groom height difference?

Did they tell you why they suggested heels? That's kind of odd to me, but maybe they have a reason. Are you wearing heels in your avatar? I think your height difference looks fine in that picture.

I never would have considered that would matter, but maybe he thinks he can get better photos of you two if you are a bit closer in height to each other. Maybe add "paging photographers" to your subject line. Someone should be able to add some input!

I'm sure Jay can shed some light on this. That seems like an odd recommendation to me.

That sounds like an odd suggestion. you guys are the same height difference as me and my fh and I'm wearing converse sneakers.

I would have thought a height difference should not effect the pictures unless he/she is right on top of you

Yes, I was wearing heels in our picture. I think I'm going to go with my original plan of a very small heel or flats and, since the wedding is at our home, I can always run inside and get one of my pairs of heels if he really feels it necessary for some shots.

Thanks everyone. I had never even thought of it but it was one of the first things that came out of his mouth yesterday... strange

Where's m? She wore cowboy boots and the height different between her and FH is huge. She has an adorable pic of her standing on a box to kiss him.

I would wear whatever you want! You don't worry about how you look together normally? Why would you suddenly look strange together on your wedding day?

I wore heels for photos. I am 5'1 and DH is 6'6. I was happy to have them on yesterday for photos but I took them off right after that!

I'd probably only make that recommendation if the bride / couple seemed concerned about bridging the height difference. That's probably the photographer's intention, I don't think it was meant to sound odd or offensive. Or perhaps this was for the portrait time, but I would assume if those are done outside and the heels may sink in the ground....and other bridesmaids in a bulk of the photos would help offset the contrast. Using proper angles and grades of the landscape also help, as well as avoiding shooting the couple from above.

That's a weird suggestion and it seems a bit old-fashioned to worry about the height difference in photos. I would wear whatever you want and not worry about it. How would you feel about him suggesting you change any other aspect of your appearance because he thought the photos would look better? It seems weird to me...

I'm sure he had his reasons, but I'd say do whatever your comfortable with. I'm 5'5 and FH is 6'6 I plan to wear heels but I love heels. The way I see it is everyone knows he taller then you so why would it matter if it shows in the pictures? A good photographer should be able to work around that so called issue.

I would be so mad if some man told me I should wear high heels for his convenience. Really mad.

I don't think you should have to if you're uncomfortable with it

Wear what makes you comfy. Not what the photographer wants

I'm almost 5'4" and my FH is almost 6'5". When we took engagement photo with a friend I wore 2" heels and every single photo that we where close together and I was looking at his face or kissing looked terrible. My neck looked strained and forced. I wish I would have taken a step back and looked more at his chin. And thankfully we did a couple cute poses sitting.

With that said I'm sure it will look great whether or not you wear heels. Just be aware of straining while looking at him. Maybe do some faux poses with him in the mirror.

Becka, what are you doing on WW? Go be with your new hubby! LOL!

@Nancy we are currently driving back to our home! So I have an hour or so to be on WW lol

I have the same height problem with my fiance lol. But this day is about u and the man u are marrying , not the photographer. As long as u are comfortable on your wedding day, that's all that should matter

Thanks again everyone I'm totally comfortable with it. I actually love the fact that he's so much larger than me lol I just wasn't sure if there was something in the logistics of it all that I wasn't thinking of. Becka's post gave me some food for thought.

Really I don't think he's suggesting it for his convenience. I'm sure he was trying to help come up with an aid to help the photos. I wouldn't read into it too much.

In a similar topic, I did a bridal show two weeks ago, met a really nice couple...the groom had to be 6'7" tall and was built like a brick shithouse....I looked up at him, and said, sir, I promise not to mess up your wedding photos We shared a good laugh. super mild mannered man, but it broke the ice. If I book their event, I probably wouldn't make the suggestion....I'd work around it, it's not like they don't know there's probably 14" height difference between them.

I don't think its necessary my fh is 6'4" as well and I am 5'5" and I plan on wearing flats