Person for planning help

I wouldn't really ask anyone. If any friends or relatives offer to help you plan, that's great. Otherwise the planning should be done by your fiance and yourself. What you are describing is a wedding planner, so unless you are planning to pay your friend or relative, I wouldn't mention it to anyone, online or otherwise.

Are you planning on paying them? Wedding planners make a lot of money and there’s a reason for it. It takes a lot of time and effort to bring someone’s vision to life for them.

I agree with PP that this isn't something to ask for unless you are looking for someone to hire. There are plenty of people who enjoy this sort of thing and might offer to help. And if they offer and you want their help, it's fine to accept. But it's waaaaaay too big of a favor to actually ask for.

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That's why I would make a post and see if anyone would want to help. I know a LOT of different people, some of who are helping with certain parts of our wedding for free.

*Professional DJ-Free plus a hotel room

*Professional Photographer-$200 plus hotel room.

I know a lot of people with very creative minds who enjoy stuff like that and would enjoy helping and would NOT require payment for it, but would be happy to be included and more than willing to help. I think I'll still make a post asking anyways.

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OK. You and I definitely have different ideas about what is polite to ask for and what isn't. Good luck with your post and your planning.

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For sure! Thanks!

Are you planning on inviting all your Facebook friends to your wedding? If not, it’s really not appropriate to post details about your wedding on Facebook. What if someone who isn’t invited volunteers to help?

You could just...hire a wedding planner? You shouldn’t expect anyone to work for free, not even your Facebook friends. Plan your own wedding or pay a professional.

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The majority of my facebook is my friends and family....so yeah...There's quite a few there that are coming.

Orrrrrrrrr....some of us can't afford to drop 4000+ on a wedding planner.... We aren't having mommy and daddy fund our wedding

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That's... incredibly rude. Most of the people on this site are paying for their own weddings completely.

Expecting anyone else to plan your wedding (especially for free... there's a reason wedding planners can get expensive, it's a goddamn difficult job) is in poor taste at the very least. Have the wedding you can afford and do your own planning with your SO. Don't use the creative talents of your friends and family. Y'all are the ones getting married: planning is on you.

My mom and mother in law helped with the planning. They were so excited for the wedding and wanted to be involved. My mother in law helped find the majority of my vendors and negotiated for me. She offered to help so I didn't pay her but we got her a nice gift as a thank you. My mom did all of my DIY projects, she had the summer off as a teacher so she had plenty of time. She was always on the look out for decor and ideas and would always send me pictures. She also offered to help so I didn't pay her and we got her a nice gift. My sister (and MOH) offered to design my Save the Date and Invitations, we didn't pay her but also gave her a really nice gift.

I would just ask around by word of mouth if you know friends and family that recently got married if they had any vendors they would recommend or any advice.

I would suggest reading the forums and articles about friendors (friends that you use as vendors). It is not usually recommended.

In all, you get what you pay for.

I haven't asked anyone. My FH and I have done most of our research and nailed down our main parts, and the smaller things I have looked into for where the purchase certain things. We have had members of our bridal party (mostly my bridesmaids) ask if they could help us with anything and we have told them we'll need most of the help setting up the day before and cleaning up on the day of b/c we decided against hiring a wedding planner.

We paid for our own wedding, we’re a one income family because I’m a stay at home mom and I I didn’t hire a planner. I also didn’t expect my friends and family to plan my wedding or work for me for free. We set a budget, found vendors in our budget, and we (H and I) picked up anything additional we needed on our own.

That is called a wedding planner and why they cost so much!

These people do exist, technically! But beware! I had a family friend volunteer to help the day of as that was the only help I needed(although I did pay her) and she ended up causing me more work as she showed up at the venue 2 hours late the day of the wedding even though I rented a house close by for her and other out of town guests to stay along with us. Everyone else headed to the venue when we did. When she did show up, she walked around for a few minutes then said she was going to take a nap in her car. A nap that lasted 3 hours! She was no where to be found for the entire reception. I literally saw her for 2 minutes when she arrived and at the end of the day when she appeared again and I asked her to leave.

Be prepared to lose a relationship because it is very possible for it to happen. Hopefully you will have better luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the POLITE response. It is very much appreciated. It’s tough for me as my mother is not very “girly”. She’s very tomboyish and she works 2 jobs (15+ hrs a day) so she is limited with time. My FH mother is deceased. His sister lives in a completely different state much farther from us. And I’m an only child with no siblings or sisters in law. I’m sort of stuck. 😟

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the heads up! I will certainly keep this in mind and take it into consideration.

Just plan it yourself (and with your future spouse) rather than asking a family member or friend to do it for free. I think you'll find that nearly everyone on here are planning their own weddings and paying for the weddings themselves, so I'm not sure where the misconception you have comes from. There are a lot of great sites with wedding advice - WeddingWire, The Knot, Zola, Brides, etc. - and you can also check out books from the library with more tips (A Practical Wedding could be helpful here).

Something that could come in handy for your big day is either hiring a day-of-coordinator who can help set up your decor and make sure everything runs smoothly, or asking if a responsible family member could help out with that. I wouldn't ask this person to help out with any planning, but they can still help out on the wedding day!

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That was part of the reason of the post. I will more than likely need some help with setting stuff up the night before! Thanks for the reply

I got a wedding book for cheap on Amazon, "The Budget Savvy Bride" by Jessica Bishop! It is REALLY helpful! It has a lot of budget tools, checklists, and even places to write notes and stuff! I have found it has kept me organized and on track!