Expect 100% attendence. Too many times we have seen brides over invite, then are faced with a dilemma (over fire code, too far out of budget, etc) because they only received 1 or 2 declines and they overinvited.
Didn't someone post a few weeks ago that her venue held 200 and she invited 265, 220 RSVP'd yes and she didn't even have all of the RSVPs back yet? All she could do was call people and ask them not to come.
That is horrifying. Don't put yourself or guests through that. Assume all will.
My sister's husband has family in the Philippines. He goes back every summer so he knows most of them but they have never left the country so he was like whatever i'll do courtesy invites. He invited all of them. About half came to the wedding. Luckily my sister planned better and they had room for everyone.
I had about 93% acceptance. Plan for 100%, youll like whatever $ is still in your account at the end of the day.
Rachel DellaPorte ·
It's a total crapshoot. Every wedding is different and every guest list is different. It's fine to play with probabilities and percentages in your head, but whatever you do, never use these "averages" as a reason to over-invite. You get one shot at the guest list. Invite every guest you can afford to host, don't go over the space max, and let the chips fall where they may.
While I don't have RSVPs in hand yet, word is getting around and I'm expecting an 90%+ attendance. I have a great aunt and uncle that I haven't seen in a decade and I was certain were not attending send back an enthusiastic yes that they were coming. So, while I would definitely mentally note that not everyone can attend, I'd still prepare for it to happen anyway.
90% said yes and attended. Sunday night, of a 3-day, summer holiday weekend. Kids weren't invited.
10-20% on average. There were several brides on WW last summer who only had 45-60% of their guest list accept. They actually invited WW brides around their area to come and fill minimum headcounts they had to have. Anything can happen but you still stick with the following:
-Always assume 100% will accept.
-If only 80% of your guest list accepts, then it's 80% of your guest list you host.
-Do not over invite what your venue can hold or what you can afford.
-Do not have a B list. It is considered rude to invite people after invitations have gone out and you begin receiving RSVP's/declines. Invitations go out around 2 months before the wedding, people will know if they receive an invite inside that time that they were probably B listed.
Always plan on 100% I told my FMIL that she could X-amount of people on her half of the list. And she kept asking if she could invite more because half or more will "for sure" not come. We already have had some say they can't wait that were supposedly for sure not coming
Plan for everyone. My friend assumed the "15%" rule and only had 2 decline. Had to make some adjustments! Don't stress yourself out more because believe me, a month before your wedding you'll be stressed enough.