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Stacey, on August 15, 2016 at 3:20 PM Posted in Planning 1 18
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I have read different things for the percentage of people that you invite to except to come . I have read 10-20 % don't come and also 30-40 % don't come . Anyone know ?

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Latest activity by OfficiallyMrsG, on August 15, 2016 at 4:45 PM
  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·
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    Expect 100% attendence. Too many times we have seen brides over invite, then are faced with a dilemma (over fire code, too far out of budget, etc) because they only received 1 or 2 declines and they overinvited.

    Don't be that Bride.

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  • MysticBride1016
    Super October 2016
    MysticBride1016 ·
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    It differs for everyone. Plan on everyone coming!

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  • Princess Consuela
    Master November 2015
    Princess Consuela ·
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    We planned for 100% and had over 90% show. For a Friday wedding in November. Plan for everybody!

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    To echo PP, always prepare for 100% attendance. There was a bride on here recently that was over by like 30 people because she got poor advice about declines.

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  • MrsMarsh
    Super August 2016
    MrsMarsh ·
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    Know who you are inviting.. I invited alot of my family on the east coast knowing that they won't come.

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·
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    @MrsMarsh: We've seen a lot of brides do that, and the ones they just KNOW won't show end up coming.

    Never count on declines. Never.

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  • CatBones
    Expert July 2020
    CatBones ·
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    Didn't someone post a few weeks ago that her venue held 200 and she invited 265, 220 RSVP'd yes and she didn't even have all of the RSVPs back yet? All she could do was call people and ask them not to come.

    That is horrifying. Don't put yourself or guests through that. Assume all will.

    My sister's husband has family in the Philippines. He goes back every summer so he knows most of them but they have never left the country so he was like whatever i'll do courtesy invites. He invited all of them. About half came to the wedding. Luckily my sister planned better and they had room for everyone.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    I had about 93% acceptance. Plan for 100%, youll like whatever $ is still in your account at the end of the day.

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    It's a total crapshoot. Every wedding is different and every guest list is different. It's fine to play with probabilities and percentages in your head, but whatever you do, never use these "averages" as a reason to over-invite. You get one shot at the guest list. Invite every guest you can afford to host, don't go over the space max, and let the chips fall where they may.

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  • Chrissy
    Master September 2016
    Chrissy ·
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    So far I'm at 100% yes rsvps. Plan for the amount you expect to show up.

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  • R&B2016
    VIP October 2016
    R&B2016 ·
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    You have have have to plan for 100% attendance. I'm sure a few won't show, but what if they all say yes? You need to have the room and budget for all guests to attend.

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  • Sylvia751
    VIP November 2016
    Sylvia751 ·
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    While I don't have RSVPs in hand yet, word is getting around and I'm expecting an 90%+ attendance. I have a great aunt and uncle that I haven't seen in a decade and I was certain were not attending send back an enthusiastic yes that they were coming. So, while I would definitely mentally note that not everyone can attend, I'd still prepare for it to happen anyway.

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  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·
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    90% said yes and attended. Sunday night, of a 3-day, summer holiday weekend. Kids weren't invited.

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  • SarahStillwell
    VIP September 2016
    SarahStillwell ·
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    We budgeted as though everyone was a yes. Our final will be about 57% attendance.

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
    MrsA ·
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    10-20% on average. There were several brides on WW last summer who only had 45-60% of their guest list accept. They actually invited WW brides around their area to come and fill minimum headcounts they had to have. Anything can happen but you still stick with the following:

    -Always assume 100% will accept.

    -If only 80% of your guest list accepts, then it's 80% of your guest list you host.

    -Do not over invite what your venue can hold or what you can afford.

    -Do not have a B list. It is considered rude to invite people after invitations have gone out and you begin receiving RSVP's/declines. Invitations go out around 2 months before the wedding, people will know if they receive an invite inside that time that they were probably B listed.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    Hi Stacey, welcome to WW! Make sure to upload a picture for your avatar (instead of the default icons) so that we can get to know you and tell you apart from all the other posters.

    Like pps have said, decline rates can vary greatly - but in terms of capacity and budget, you should always make sure you can handle it if you get 100% attendance!

    Here's a great post from last week where people shared the decline rate from their wedding:

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/decline-rates/9f1b9bd8af51d4ec.html


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  • WhitneyYvonne
    Super January 2017
    WhitneyYvonne ·
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    Always plan on 100% I told my FMIL that she could X-amount of people on her half of the list. And she kept asking if she could invite more because half or more will "for sure" not come. We already have had some say they can't wait that were supposedly for sure not coming

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  • OfficiallyMrsG
    Super September 2016
    OfficiallyMrsG ·
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    Plan for everyone. My friend assumed the "15%" rule and only had 2 decline. Had to make some adjustments! Don't stress yourself out more because believe me, a month before your wedding you'll be stressed enough.

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