People you shouldn't invite to your Wedding

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Agreed. Would NEVER subject anybody to going it alone...a plus one is always better they can be in some company...especially if they don't know anybody else at the wedding.

I will NEVER invite co-workers or bosses to my wedding; the only one that will come close is my Matron of Honour; and even then it was AFTER her and I parted ways at the worksite. NEVER a good idea to mingle business with pleasure. :/

Children NEVER...EXES...NEVER.

Why not classmates!?

I love this video!!!

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View Quoted Comment I do too. I love how she presented the video, tons of humor in it as well.

If the couples pockets are deep or someone else is paying for their wedding (i.e. parents) then I can see how someone would not have an issues with a bunch of randoms and plus ones attending their wedding. However, if you are trying to control cost and stay within a budget that allows for invitee's that are close to you, your fiance and immediately family members - this video brings out some good points. I don't believe this video was speaking all inclusively or that this should be some kind of standard procedure for every bride. This youtuber was basically addressing individuals who want to control their costs and she has a point. If someone is okay with inviting the neighborhood next door they only spoke to twice, that's their prerogative, do you. But if a bride want to get some kind of gauge as to how she should proceed with invites and has a budget to maintain (say total under $20,000), this video is making mad sense.

Another option if you want to include other extended family and friends is to have something informal and fun at a later date that does not command as much money per head and folks still get to celebrate with the couple.

• I was engaged at five months so I find that part a bit rude. Our entire family and groups of friends were so supportive but there were a handful of acquaintances who passed hard judgment on us. “It’s not that serious” and “it’s too soon” and “it’s just infatuation.” You have no right to judge the seriousness of someone else’s relationship.
• Coworkers - if your friends with them and enjoy their company, why not? You spend a lot of time at work with these people and relationships can grow so close.
• Small children - I respect those who have an adults only wedding. We personally loved the small amount of kids who came to the wedding (most the parents got a sitter) and we had literally zero problems regarding rowdiness, crying, etc.
• Classmates - I’m not in school but when I was, I made so many friends in classes. I would 100% invite a classmate friend to my wedding.
• Your ex - entirely circumstantial. Am I going to invite my ex who I had a nasty breakup with and haven’t seen in five years? No. But a friend of mine was invited to her ex’s wedding because they have such a small social circle in their hometown. Also, like cassie, I have a friend who had an ex, or two, in her bridal party.

these videos are so annoying.

I do not agree with the everyone gets a plus one idea. I don't really care about proper ediquette. If i don't know, don't like, or am not close to someone why would I invite them, unless they are married, married couples come together. I've gone to weddings alone it wasn't a big deal. In the end it's my day and i can invite who i want to celebrate with, and that doesn't mean I'm judging the seriousness of the relationship.
i dont want to invite my cousin's girlfriend and as of right now she's not on the list. I've met her once and didn't even carry on a conversation just said hi. I'm not close with my cousin either. Why should I feel obligated to ask her to come?
Not trying to debate just stating my two cents.

I'm not super close to all the people I'm inviting, but if I removed all these people from my guest list I would have maybe five guests. To anyone who wants to elope or have an intimate wedding, that's great, but I want mine to really feel like a big celebration. And many of my former coworkers/classmates/relatives are excited to go and to be bringing their kids. Just because you can't invite them doesn't mean it's not okay for them to ask, they're just asking. Take it as a compliment because they're interested in seeing you get married. Some people love weddings.

Imo it's also rude to not give someone a plus one, especially when they won't know most of the people there, because it's really uncomfortable to go to a huge event by yourself.

I invited my ex but he came with his husband of over 25 years (legal since Dec 2013!) The four of us socialize together so we are all cool. He has been a dear friend to me over the years. Otherwise, no ex's. Agreed

Disagree about the plus one, everyone gets one. I am outgoing and chatty but I would want someone there to sit with.

I went to a wedding where I knew no one but my boyfriend (he was in the wedding party and we were together for 4 years). He was socializing and taking pictures (so he wasn't always by my side during event) but I'm outgoing and can chat it up with just about anybody. Well, I meet a nice young lady in the parking lot, we started talking, basically hung out most of the wedding and became friends. We are still friends to this day even though I broke up with my boyfriend.

So as the youtuber in the video said she was not going to sit someone at a table where they would be uncomfortable, she would try to match single people up at tables so they could network. So a plus one is not always necessary, it's good for single folks to come out even if they don't have a partner-in-crime for that day - socialize and meet new people and what better way then at a wedding. Folks act like they all insecure and scare to come out by themselves, ridiculous.

Totally disagree on the plus 1s. Every adult who isn't in a relationship at the time you send out the invites gets a plus 1, anyone in a relationship, even if they called you to tell you about that relationship as you were addressing the invite, gets invited with their named SO.

This video had some great content and was hilarious!!! I personally invited everyone who was in a relationship, but it's most certainly up to the bride and groom who they choose to invite and I STRONGLY feel her on the $100 per person thing and how she doesn't see why she should pay $100 for a random stranger lol! I'm definitely inviting kids though, some co-workers, etc. Anyway, to each their own!!!

I agree with most of these, except

-I love children and there was no way I was not having my little nieces and nephews attend.

-There's no hard-and-fast rule of etiquette for plus-ones, but for me, regardless of relationship length, anyone in the wedding party, all family, and close friends that you really care about attending should all get plus-ones.

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Sorry, I do not go to weddings to network, I'm there to support the couple. If I make friends, great. But just because you're outgoing, you can't expect that everyone has your personality type. I have mild social anxiety and I'd never use this as an excuse to back out of a wedding, but any time I'm at a party and find myself at a table full of strangers, I tend to have an awful time and end up sitting quietly, because I can't find the words to strike up a conversation with anyone, even if they were nice or hand-selected because of shared interests. I think extroverts are a really necessary and valuable part of any society, but I get angry when they don't extend the same positive view to introverts, and don't even try to understand why anyone would be uncomfortable in certain social settings. We would like to have the effortless ability to make friends but that's just not the case for everyone.

I didn't expect a plus one to every wedding when I was single, but I did appreciate when I was invited and seated with at least one person I already knew; this never happened to me but I'd hate it if the bride tried to social-engineer me into making friends by throwing me into a table full of single strangers.

I agree with you guys so much. If you have anxiety having that plus one makes everything so much better instead of having to worry about being awkward alone. If I were dating someone and didn't get a +1, I'd be a little miffed.

My ex might be coming to mine...

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Should have thought about that!

I have a few family members that are not being invited for various reasons and I am to the point that they are either going to be ok with it or never going to speak to me again. i also have a few friends that are out of state that are not getting invites because of the time of year that we are having the wedding. most of them have kids that are in school and its not over a break so its not convenient for them. and yes i have 1 ex that is coming but he is our roommate so that is why he is getting an invitation to the wedding

I saw this video a few times before! I agree with the random relative you haven't seen in ages, and I wish I could have kept them off my wedding list. Unfortunately, it would have started so much drama and hatred.

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Lacie,

OMG I love this idea! Saving it in my notebook for those relatives that, even though I'm a grown adult now, still give me the creeps.

Thank you for your response!

Aubrianna Abbema