People panicking

July and August brides have just as much of a right to be concerned about COVID-19 per recent information. Please try to have some compassion for others who are also rightfully concerned, it isn't a competition.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. Great advice.

I understand everyone's concern for July and August. But I truly do believe that we need to follow the 8 week guideline that was stated earlier. While we will probably continue to have the coronavirus for a very long time. I don't believe that they can ban gatherings for months on end. I don't believe the virus will be as bad in July and August. I also do understand your anxiety coming on here and see all the posts about anxiety for weddings coming up. I'm still trying to come on here for advice but there doesn't really seem to be any other than panic lately. I'm tired of the panic; so right now I'm just living my life as I normally do. I'm still at work Monday-Friday. I won't stop living life because of this. I do take the precautions.

I’m very worried about brides this month and next month, but of course I’m getting married in August so I’m of course worried about my own wedding because I have invites made and ribbons for my date so changing it around is making me very anxious. Not to mention I’m in front lines in my job as a cashier. So just bit of everything makes me worried about when will this truly end and wish everyone stays home for 2 weeks. Just so it can go away.

I think it’s because hearing that the situation may not be over by July or aug just gives people anxiety overall. Which is understandable because things are so uncertain at the moment. I do think things hopefully would be better by then but then again, who really knows. So all we can do is try to do our parts and see how it goes

View Quoted Comment I’m tired of people panicking too. We can’t shut everything down for 6 months+. I have to go to work every day too because I work at a retail store with very selfish people in corporate who clearly don’t care about us. I just can’t deal with people still freaking out that things are going to still be bad by then... I just want my spring wedding.

When all is said and done there will be an economic impact of all this. People are out of work, whole industries have been shut down by state and local governments in a lot of places. I used to work in the beauty industry so I have people coming to our wedding who do hair/makeup they are out of work now because our state department of public health ordered the services to be halted. We have someone in our wedding party who works for a company that organizes conferences and events around the country they lost business because you can't have large gatherings. When things resume to normal a lot of people may not be in a financial place to spend the extra money to travel, buy a dress/suit, pay for a hotel etc etc for a wedding and that is something we have been thinking about with our upcoming wedding.

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It may be best to take a break from this forum for awhile if this is how you are feeling. Unfortunately the concerns will continue to dominate the forum and it seems to be fueling your anxiety rather than helping. All the best!

View Quoted Comment I think it’s for the best. Thank you everyone for leaving rational comments. Just trying to calm down and take it day by day.

Part of the reason China is doing better now is because there was ineffective control of the virus to start so many people got exposed and sick quickly (and many died) and now the virus has worked its way through large swaths of the population and is starting to stabilize. The reason we are taking the measures we are in the USA is not so much to stop the virus but to slow its spread, so that our health care system can keep up and provide adequate care to those who need it, reducing the death rate. While these steps may reduce the overall number of people who get the virus it is more likely that a similar number of people will still be impacted, just over a longer period of time. So this could easily extend for months or even longer here.

I am a May 30th bride, so I completely understand how distressing it is to see all of these late summer brides freaking out when its possible that the virus will be more under control by then, especially if you're in the boat where it is immediately impacting your plans, but at this point we just don't know when this will get under control. I think its important for all of us to remember that regardless of how the virus impacts our wedding plans we still are lucky enough to have found the person we want to spend the rest of your life with and that is something to be grateful for. Here, my FH and I are just trying to take each day one day at a time, focus on what we can control, and find comfort in the fact that we have each other. We may end up having to forgo the wedding celebration we had planned but we are going to marry one way or another, and I'd much rather face this pandemic with him than alone or with anyone else!

I think that July, August brides are concerned because no one really knows. I also read that China is slowly getting back on track but it’s still very much a concern for us here in the U.S. My wedding isn’t until October and I’m still hesitant to plan any further. All we can really do at this point is pray that our country overcome this and we can all move forward.

May 16th here and no plans to postpone. I'm with you on these forums causing anxiety! Way to many opinions and judgment on others' decisions. I had a major meltdown the other night after reading posts on here for hours. Why am I even back on here?!?!?! It's like a train wreck and I can't look away. Officially signing off!

All the best to every single couple! You do you!

View Quoted Comment I’m going to delete the app too and just use the knot. Best of luck to you and your fiancé.

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I'm an April bride moving to August...if August doesn't happen either I will freak out!

View Quoted Comment I wish you the best! I think it will happen for you and be just fine. Try not to pay attention to the panic.

I think it is natural for people to panic/ be concerned and fear the unknown. The world just found out today that China didn't have any newly reported cases in a 24 hour period yesterday. That is good news for China and the rest of the world can be hopeful that it will continue to subside. Social Distancing is helping and hurting many, many people (financially and event planning).

I personally don't fear the virus for myself, but I do fear that I could pass it on to those who are at higher risk. I do fear the unknown of layoffs in Las Vegas because my FH is now waiting to see what happens next for him since he works/worked on the Strip doing maintenance for a casino.

Our wedding is 10.10.2020 and think it will happen as planned, maybe minus a few add-ons depending on FH work situation.

View Quoted Comment I’m hoping by August it’s all better.

If your first thought was to be dismissive of other brides, that's an excellent sign that you need some time away fron here and take a step back to see beyond yourself.


EVERYONE, whether they were planning to get married tomorrow or in 2058, is dealing with the unknown. A lot of people have put countless hours into and spent their hard-earned money on their wedding day. Please don't project your feelings on everyone else.
July and August brides are nearing the point where they have order and send dated invitations, which costs money. Their guests will begin getting them in the mail during this 8-week timeframe (that could be extended at this point). Their guests are going to be worried about their health, whether they should be in group settings, and, in some cases, if they should travel. These guests, the wedding party, and even the couple may be part of a high-risk group. So it's very easy for a July/August couple see their numbers sharply decrease and still be on the hook for meals and eveything else. By discussing this and learning from spring brides, they are weighing their options so they can make an informed decision.
Now that you have that perspective, I hope you will reconsider your position. Or, at least, take a break from negative posts. I'm saying all of this with love and compassion during these unsteady times. It costs zero dollars to be kind. ❤

View Quoted Comment I definitely have not reconsidered my position and I am not being selfish. I understand that people are concerned but they are being ridiculous. I am upset that myself and other brides who have been waiting to get married for years possibly cannot have their spring weddings and the fact that people are being very mean and judgmental about it. I was set off by someone asking if they should cancel a bridal shower In September or something. Thanks for not understanding that I am stressed out and upset because my wedding is 2 days before the 8 week quarantine is up.

View Quoted Comment If that's all you gathered from my response, then you didn't read it at all.

I'm a July 11th bride. Work in health care. Been waiting 7 years to get married. Spending a lot of money. High risk. My parents had me late in life, so most of my 1st cousins are 55 or older. FH's grandparents are in their 90s. My dad is high risk, can barely walk. Many guests have to travel, as FH and I grew up in different states. I can't risk all of us dying, Karen. I, along with many other couples, have to legitimately reevaluate their weddings and think about canceling even though it's "only" March. We don't live in China, and they have a different government and health system, so we can't assume it will go the same way in the USA, Canada, or any other country. This is serious for ALL of us.

I say this with all seriousness, and I'm not trying to be mean at all. Please set up a telemedicine appointment with a therapist or doctor to assist you with your anxiety. Avoid wedding forums and any other triggers. Check your privilege. Cry and scream. Don't take your personal struggles out on others because you never know what someone is going through. Like I said, it doesn't cost anything to be kind.

I will not respond to you further. Good-bye.

Everyone, be well and take care of yourself as much as you can! ❤