People inviting themselves

Yep! People have definitely come out of the woodworks. I just say "no. You're most likely not invited. I'm sorry. If we invited everyone we knew our wedding would be 1000 people" Everyone understands and if they are going to be forward enough to ask them I'm going to be honest with them.

Bean dip.

No.

The week before the wedding, they are doing asbestos removal......so guests will be asked to wear hazmat suits. I think that we are limiting the guest list because of it, but due to the timing we saved some good coin. I will let you know.

That should end it. Or Centerpiece's idea is good. lol

Thanks ladies! And happy holidays!

One of my distant cousins has been doing the same thing, and I'll be seeing her tomorrow at my Auntie's house for Christmas >.<

We're going to ignore those people, and if they're insistant, then we'll tell them that we don't have the budget and we're filled to capacity.

Or you can just keep ignoring them and change the subject.

Nope.

I just tell people were keeping it to family...They don't need to know that we're also inviting a very small handful of friends...

I have a co worker who has done the whole 'i better be invited' thing and I just said 'niether of us are inviting co workers since we can't invite them all and it isn't fair to pick and choose'

Tell them it's an intimate wedding and the guest list is specifically paid for. Sorry! Bye!

It's almost worse when someone asks why they weren't selected to be in your bridal party after they hear you already picked lol I try to change the subject and say how big our families are and move on when this happens

Luckily I haven't had any adults ask but FH and I are youth leaders at our church so I've had a handful of my favorite little middle school girls make comments like that and I explain to them that we wish we could invite them all but we can't. It breaks my heart to tell them no :/ but obviously we can't invite 50 extra kids. We're close with a few couples at our church who have students in the youth group, so those students will be invited along with their parents but we get to crush every other kid who asks haha. But even kids understand that weddings are expensive and you can't invite every one you might want to.

@Erin Wood Ooooh I like that logic! If they are forward enough to ask, you shouldn't be afraid to be forward right back! Sucks when they catch you off guard though.

Ugh dealing with a lot of this too...sometimes I just smile and say we are keeping it pretty small..or just smile and not say anything at all...

FH didn't believe me when I told him people would start inviting themselves lol. I just tell them that we're just enjoying our engagement for now and haven't gotten into the nitty-gritty of planning yet (works for now since it's so new)

No is a complete statement OR ask that person if they tried the bean dip. Divert the attention!

Nope. They'll get the hint when they see the wedding pictures. Or you can just use the excuse that your numbers are limited and if their good people they'll understand.

I'm dealing with this now. My old college roommate who I haven't seen or talked to in almost 10 years called and said she'd be there no matter what....uhhhh I didn't know what to say. I've also had some people say they have already taken vacation days from work to attend, but they aren't invited!! I didn't say so at the time though I just kind of laughed and shrugged it off, so now I'm worried I led them on???

Make sure their not invited to any wedding festivities as well such as bridal shower etc.