People inviting themselves

I just either smile and avoid the question or if it is someone that I really never see then I say "Well unfortunately we only have a limited number that the venue can hold so we don't get to have everyone we would like to have there."

This is where I put my foot down and say, I'm sorry but we have limited seats and are only having an intimate wedding.

I did not invite my father, some cousins, and other people that are not invited to our wedding.

We dealt with that. We luckily had a wedding on the other coast so we could use that. And then told them that we wanted to keep it small of they were still interested in inviting themselves.

Ignore it. They clearly know if they are invited or not based on if they receive an invitation.

You smile and say, "Oh, I'm so touched, but hey, the wedding isn't for another ten months. We are dreading the guest list thing. So, tell me about _______ (something to do with them. People love to talk about themselves)."

When it gets so close that you can't divert the subject, you say, "Oh, we really wanted to invite so many more people than we could, and we really thought we'd be able to, but, these damn weddings are so expensive, and you know how it is with family." Then, change the subject...quickly.

Unfortunately, the space is limited and we aren't able to invite everyone we would like to, but we appreciate your excitement.

Then change the subject.

Unfortunately we are having small wedding. Repeat this 10x

My coworker keep saying things like; i love weddings, i can't wait; just to let you know, I'm a wedding crasher. Lol I don't know how I'll tell him he's not invited

No.

Got a christmas card from my third cousin today that said "hope to make it to the wedding!" (she has five kids and is definitely assuming they're included..)

You say no, it's that simple.

Basically my whole family invited themselves and my coworkers. I'm sure they're going to be disappointed but it's my wedding, not a family reunion. My coworkers on the other hand, I won't even work there by the time the wedding comes around because I'll graduate school and start my career before that so I'm not even worried about them.

I'm on mobile so I can't link it but read the "bean dip script" thread a little ways down on the page. Divert the conversation like @Centerpiece said.

During a family reunion with FH's family over Thanksgiving we got this from so many people in his family. "Oh I didn't get a STDS. But that's alright" " I can't wait for the wedding" . Yeahhhhhh guys, some of yall aren't invited.

"We're having a really small wedding." Change subject.

This is why I tried to avoid a lot of social engagements leading up to our wedding lol.

Smile and ignore :-)

People are so awkward... whyyyy does anyone think it's ok to say these things?? It baffles me lol

My coworkers pretty much invited themselves, and I sat there looking at them like "yall must think that I have no friends or life outside of here to think I'll be inviting you.." I have a guest list of 90 people and the one coworker I am inviting is literally someone who was already in my circle outside of work.

They have their "seats" picked out and always make comments of, "I'll be drinking x, and z". It's frustrating to me because some of them have no class at times. I just smile and walk away.. I won't be working there by the time the wedding comes, so I won't be seeing any of them after February.

We have been having a LOT of this. FH wants to add all of them in too. Oy.

I agree with @LaGrosera about the "bean dip script"! Just heard of it last night and already used it. It was great.