People inviting themselves to my wedding

I would just tell them the truth that the wedding costs per person and that you dont have the means to invite everyone so you are keeping it small and simple, just inviting close family and friends, and that you appreiciate them wanting to be a part of your big day.

Tell them the truth that our budget is tight and you family is big and you are just gonna have close family and friends. Ppl understand that weddings costs. It's not just a big party.

Tell them that this is a small intimate affair with family and close friends. You could also just smile and say "We will see we still haven't worked out the guest list." You can also just do what I did (as mean as it may sound) "Hey will I get an invite?" "Why would or should I invite you to my wedding?" Watching their faces turn red and stammer was pretty fun to watch.

Or you could just not respond!

I'm having the same problem. I just say "actually we're doing a more intimate/small wedding.... mostly just family". That usually spells it out in a nice way that people can't be offended by.

I'm going to throw a super informal party 2 weeks after my wedding for all the people I couldn't invite and who ever really wants to come. Just a BBQ/potluck with some music. Good luck : )

Definitely having this problem...**le sigh** I hope people understand that we can't invite everyone!

Thanks for the suggestions everyone! @ Brian, I've actually been getting the, "where's my invite" and the "i'm coming. make sure u include me on the guest list" LOL...it's CRAZY!!! When people do this, I'm at a loss for words because it always catches me off guard.

When you talk about your wedding EVER just say that you are doing a very small, intimate affair- mainly for family. Just say you are keeping very simple and VERY small.

A wedding is small and intimate to any guest that's not invited... whether the actual guest list is 25 or 250...

I ran into the same problem with my neighbor across the street, she just assumed she'd be invited to the wedding. She just came up to me during our July 4th party and said I'm so excited for your wedding ... I haven't been to a wedding in so long. I was like well the wedding is out of state and we haven't worked out the guest list yet.

I hate it when people just assume they are getting an invite.

FutureMrs.BTA I've had people ask me the same thing, or they tell me let me make sure you have my address right or I can't wait until I see everything come together. And Ive been tight lipped, especially at work. I always smile and try to politely say that its just family and close friends or if I mention the wedding at all I say how tight our budget is.

Just be honest. If your budget won't allow for guest outside of family and close friends, just say so. It's your wedding, and you shouldn't have to make anything up, or worry yourself about how others will feel not being invited. Truth is, no matter what you say, some people may feel you're being insensitve and mean. Good luck girly!

DO NOT MENTION BUDGET AT ALL. Just say 'Thank you so much for your interest but it's a small, intimate family wedding - you understand.'

If you mention budget it sounds like you value other things over people. Lets face it, if you really put your mind to it, you can always find ways to have everyone you want at a wedding - even if that means all you can afford is 'cake and punch' at home - as Miss Manners says.

This is why Miss Manners gives the above advice. Just repeat that it's a small, family wedding.

I would just tell them the truth. Your wedding is Intimate and you can only invite a certain number of people.

I just told the truth, I had ex coworkers asking to come to the wedding and I haven't seen them in person in almost 2 years. As well as a girl from High school that I barely knew said she's "totally gonna be there!" uh, no ma'am, you're not. I just explained that FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and we're just doing a small ceremony with just close family and friends.