People canceling due to the virus.

I am truly sorry you have to experience this. Idk how I would feel if I was in your place. All the planning and money. Praying your day is still special if it’s only you two there!!

In any other situation, we would be on your side. But Dallas is literally on lockdown right now. Most of us are being told to work remote if we can, schools are cancelled, and I think toilet paper might go on the black market. People absolutely want to make the trip. I'm sure they're devastated. You have to remember that you'll be married either way, and not take them not coming personally. In the end it's up to your situation, but you cannot force guests, even close family, to come. You are allowed to be disappointed, but being mad at them for taking care of themselves over your day is shortsighted.



Also, we fully expected to have no problems with our wedding until Wendeday. I'm on forced wfh and so is my FH. And we're lucky we won't be missing out on money! Your family would be there if circumstances were different, but you need to enjoy your day with whoever comes.

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I totally get it if the wedding was here in the US which is not. I live down in Miami the focus of the virus is not even here. The rest of us that are going know how this particular person operates. I know people in this board say not to take it personal, but with this person it's very personal the let downs have been many. At this point neither my mom nor my dad or brother are happy with the way that part of my family handled the whole thing. They knew they were not coming since weeks ago and waited until my trip was non-refundable to ask me to change the day of the wedding, that is just down right mean and not very thoughtful. On top of that I think that I deserve way better than a text message saying either you change the date or we are not coming. I know many people might not understand my frustration, but this person is like a second mother to me. She did not make it to my dress shopping because of some lame excuse last minute and now she cancels on me 5 days before I leave. The way I see it we were all born and raised in a third world country with no resources, so unless is deadly, to me is not a big deal.

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I am so sorry! It is very sad some people I did not really care they canceled, but others I never imagined they would. I think that's why I am so hurt, not even my mom could believe it.

I'm so sorry for you. I think a lot of brides are worried, but you seem to be right in the middle of the hysteria and are feeling the real implications of this happening right now. I am sure your family LOVES YOU DEARLY and are just concerned for safety. My heart goes out to you.

People cancelling cause of health concerns does not mean you "don't have family". That's a little extreme.

It's okay to be disappointed just like it's okay for people to protect their health.

Same thing is happening to me. My wedding is March 27th 2020 and I have received multiple cancellations from my fiances family from out of state AND in state. I feel bad that he will not have many of his family members there and I am dreading to hear more cancellations as the days go by. We still need to fill 20 spaces. I am not sure how to deal with this as I even got laid off a couple of days ago because of "restructuring". I hope this stress will pass.

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Same here I have been emailing vendors all morning in case we have to postpone. Our wedding is April 19th and guests are already calling and texting me asking if we are going to cancel or postpone. It is very stressful because we planned this for a year now.

The anxiety is real. I just have no solutions to offer.