People canceling due to the virus.

I feel you.....my wedding is in 10hrs and people are cancelling left n right.

Aw but I think you also have to get that some people are just afraid, ya know? Some people don’t want to risk it and are uncomfortable with being in crowds at the moment

I am so sorry No one could've prepared for this. I just keep thinking of it as "at least in the future, when you're helping your daughter or other women prepare for weddings, you can tell them that AT LEAST they didn't have to deal with a friggin pandemic in the middle of wedding stress...."

We should all get an award for the added stress it's causing! I hope that they give it a little bit of time and maybe reconsider. If not, you could consider doing a small ceremony with just you, your FH, your officiant, and 2 witnesses and then postponing for a vow renewal and reception later on in the year or next year when all of this calms down. It's not a fun option, but it's there. My wedding is at the end of May... I'm supposed to send out invites at the end of this month, but I feel like I'll just get a bunch of declines :/

I am so sorry. It definitely sucks and no one wants that, but no one expected a pandemic either. I understand why you feel without family, but keep in mind this pandemic is really scary, not sure why we are more scared of this virus vs. H1N1, but they are.

It doesn't help that every news broadcast warns against travel and many states are now forcing school kids to be self quarantined up to 3 weeks. My ss attends school today and will be out for 3 weeks, 2 of which are his spring break).

If you continue on with your day of choice, know that the only two people that matter are you and your FH.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is also at the end of May and I have my invites ready to go but I'm not sure if ppl will want to come or not. Are you planning on postponing or are you going to wait a little longer?

You’re allowed to be disappointed, but you also shouldn’t expect your friends and family to risk their wellbeing for your wedding.

Hey girl!
my wedding is April 18th, so a little over a month away! I have spent the entire morning emailing vendors to say i’m not cancelling or postponing but what are the contingencies/options available to me incase we decide to postpone.... I could just CRY at the thought of having to find another date that my venue open and all of my vendors.

I also, understand where you are coming from on feeling some resentment towards people not coming, it hurts a lot. All we can do is HOPE that things start looking better!
I feel for you girl!

I'm sorry this is affecting you but - disowning your family over this? There is a global pandemic and even if you aren't someone who falls under high risk, they may be or are close with someone who is. The entire country is being encouraged to refrain from large gatherings. I understand this is your wedding day, but I think you need to acknowledge that people are genuinely concerned for their health and safety.

YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID

View Quoted Comment I agree with Caytlyn.
I honestly cannot fathom the stress and anxiety. (I’ve been on these boards looking for help because my little sister’s wedding is in four weeks and she has people flying from everywhere.) ...But you have to also understand that the people that are most affected by the virus are our parents, grandparents, and those with health issues. Weddings can be replanned... These are people’s lives we are talking about, sweetie.

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I am going to wait. Two and a half months out feels like there's some time. We're going to play by ear (see how many declines we get//keep an eye on the reputable sources to see if the spread is getting better vs worse). I'm concerned because the county we are getting married in has had the MOST outbreaks in my state (of course). BUT most of our guests are local, and no one has to fly in... if it becomes obvious that the wedding will be a health threat to our older guests, then we will have to reevaluate. At this point, though, I'm going to send my invites out as scheduled, keep planning and praying... hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

View Quoted Comment I’m not postponing it. My mom thinks that the people in my family whom are no longer coming were looking for an excuse and they found the perfect one. The media is making it seem like Its the end of the world when it’s not and that’s why people are frenetic.

View Quoted Comment We're going with the latter option. A lot of FH's immediate family is too scared to travel, and you can feel disappointed but you also have to admit that them getting sick because they traveled for you would also kill them. I'm sure this is heartbreaking all around. It's a personal situation all around, and you can feel disappointed. But also your family have to make the best decision for them. Them getting sick helps no one. If you decide to go ahead as planned, you can livestream it for everyone who can't make it. But try not to take their absence to heart. No one planned on this.

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I completely hear you. We are keeping our guests health as our number one priority. We won't be offended by ANYONE saying no at this point. We are just giving it a little bit of time; you never know when the sun will break through the clouds with situations like these Our wedding date is just far enough away that I feel compelled to hold off and see if there's a chance we'll be okay.

Your feelings are totally valid, but so are theirs. We’ve never dealt with anything like this before. The world is shutting down and people don’t know how scared they should be or how much precaution is appropriate, so erring on the side of caution doesn’t seem crazy. I know it’s hard, but they aren’t abandoning you. They’re just trying to take care of themselves.

I understand your disappointment. But things happen. I'm not sure if they're people from out of state, but my FH was told yesterday that when he goes out of state at the end of the month, his company will require him to do a 14 day self quarantine when he returns and will not be allowed at work, so that's 3 weeks not at work if you include the time for the trip. He doesn't even work in healthcare or anything like that. So really, some things are beyond our control.

I get people are scared, but they waited until I couldn’t do anything about it that’s just obnoxious. On top of that I didn’t even get a phone call I got a long ass text message last minute from the people closest to me, not even distant family members. That’s just not right.

It is understandable to be disappointed but I do not think you feeling like you do not have family is accurate. Many people are concerned about the virus and while I am on the side of it is mostly hysteria feeding all of this but it is a pandemic so people cancelling due to concerns is a bit logical. I do not want you to feel that they were cancelling to be jerks to you as that is not the case. I am sorry this happened but still be positive about your day as it is about you two.

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I absolutely have sympathy for anyone dealing with this in related to wedding planning. This is not something anyone would wish on their worst enemy. It is also new territory and we are all just feeling our way forward.

The situation is changing day by day, so to call it "obnoxious" that they cancelled after your catering numbers were in is so misguided. No one anticipated where we would be today even a week ago. You can choose to hold this against them if you want, but that says way more about you than it does about them. This pandemic is not personally out to get you.

Your attitude towards your family does not reflect well on you and I am not going to validate that.

It’s totally disappointing and sad for sure, but most guests are disappointed too! I had to cancel going to a wedding this weekend that I was in (flying there) but I can’t risk spreading illness to the immuno compromised people in my life! I would’ve been so upset if I attended the wedding only to fall ill shortly after.. not worth it.