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People calling me By FH's last name

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lyla, on July 25, 2017 at 5:16 PM

So I decided not to change my last name at the wedding, and I've let people know (including dh's family) that I didn't change my name yet. However, his mom and family is making a huge deal of calling me Mrs. Thompson in every text, letter, fb post, etc. despite that. For those of you who didn't change your name, how did you deal with people who call you by your husbands last name? It almost feels like lying to not continually correct them. On the other hand, I don't want to be annoying about it or seem as if I'm insulting people who do change their name.

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pammat · on July 25, 2017 at 9:09 PM
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I was lucky enough not to have to deal with this from my ex's immediate family. Other people I corrected once and then ignored...but then these were people I didn't need to see often.
It all depends on how hard core you want to be. Make sure your correspondence (e.g., return address labels)?has your name on it.
FH's sister kept her name, so I will be lucky this time too.
Good luck--it can be infuriating, I know!!
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Courtnie · on July 25, 2017 at 9:22 PM
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I have no intentions of taking FH's name after we get married, but his mom has already sent us mail in which she addresses me by it. I'm hoping she won't be as persistent as your family but I plan on just correcting people as I go, no matter how annoying it is. I'm not taking his name for a reason so I don't want people to call me by it...I'd say stand your ground
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FutureMrsBoo · on July 25, 2017 at 9:24 PM
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I'm a pretty straightforward and (politely) assertive person who is totally okay with speaking my mind when others would be uncomfortable, so take this through that lens. But I would just consistently and casually correct people as it happens. "Oh, actually I'm keeping my name. And John and I are so excited to celebrate with you, can't wait to see you at our wedding." Or, "Thanks for your well wishes, we couldn't be happier! By the way, I'm keeping my name!" If it helps, you can say something cute like, "John might have stolen my heart, but I'm keeping my name!"
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