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alexandria, on May 7, 2013 at 11:07 AM

Ok ok I know this is my fault.. But people ask about details about wedding and what am I supposed to do say nothing? I have a friend who overheard me saying our invite list was at 296. She texted me and said with you having 300 people I expect to be on that list. Really?!? (She wasn't) I really...

Ok ok I know this is my fault.. But people ask about details about wedding and what am I supposed to do say nothing?

I have a friend who overheard me saying our invite list was at 296. She texted me and said with you having 300 people I expect to be on that list. Really?!? (She wasn't) I really don't want her there because her husband is a jerk. He gets drunk at parties and tells racist jokes.

But dumb embarrassed me said yeah your on the list. Shoot now what? We aren't paying food per person it's more chairs, stemware and booze that will effect our count but I hate her husband. Really who says this?

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Private User · on May 7, 2013 at 12:12 PM
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I am sorry you are going through this. I am lucky because we are only have family. FSIL is inviting her best friends, but hey she is letting us use her backyard. I don't feel like I can tell her no, besides FH says they are like sisters and he has known them all his life.
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Emily · on May 7, 2013 at 12:17 PM
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I'm sure she knows about her husband's behavior at parties better than anyone. Is she OK with how he acts when drunk? Are you close enough that you could (politely!) tell her that you're excited to have them at your wedding but you're a bit concerned about comments he might make? She may get embarrassed or mad at first, but it would at least be on her radar as something to talk about with him. Or, she could be so mad at you for mentioning it that she decides not to come, and would that be so bad?

Worst case scenario, he comes and does something offensive. Hopefully your other guests would understand that it's only a reflection of him, not of you or the wedding. Just make sure nobody lets him near a microphone.
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