Peeved that he went out over the weekend?

Personally I say yeah you're overreacting a bit. You can't really say you don't mind him doing it if you're upset about it. I don't see my H much through the week and if he wants to go out with his coworkers or buddies when they're in town, that's fine.
On the other hand, if he blew off plans with you unexpectedly, then maybe you have some right to be mad. If it's just a "well I have 2 less hours to see him" then I'd say it's not worth being upset about.

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I guess I'm just upset that I prob won't see him at all today when I thought I would.

Maybe I’m not clear… Are you saying your FH goes out with you and your friends (and you’re fine with that). But when he goes out with his own friends, that’s a problem? Hopefully I misunderstood. But, if I didn’t, then.... yes that’s a little overbearing. I think you’ll be fine without seeing him for one day since you’re going to be marrying him for the rest of your life

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Sometimes I do want to go out on my own, but I include him because he doesn't like me going w/out him. I know I'll be married to him, but I just have some physical needs.

View Quoted Comment He doesn’t like you going without him… You don’t like him going without you. Sounds like something to work on prior to marriage (especially given this reaction when one person goes alone). That’s a bit unrealistic and, believe me, each person in a marriage needs some time with their girls/guys. Being around each other 24/7 is going to cause problems and feel like the “ball and chain” that people joke about.

View Quoted Comment I feel super hurt that he hasn't texted me very much and hasn't answered in almost an hour. I know super irrational, but feels like he is blowing me off.

View Quoted Comment So I just looked at your past posts and saw your post about insecurity.
Honestly it sounds like there are some things you need to work out before you get married. Sorry if that sounds harsh

On the one hand, it seems like he insists on going along when you want to go out with your friends, while he goes out with his own friends without allowing you to go along. That's clearly unfair.

On the other hand, both of you need to be able to have some time with your own friends, without the other. So you need to work out some compromise. For example, you sometimes get time alone with your own friends. And he lets you know in advance when he wants some time alone with his friends on a weekend, so you can make other plans.

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That's all I would have wanted from him. He gave me the impression that he would be done by a certain time and see me. I wish he would have said that he couldn't make it instead of taking so long to reply and not telling me what was going on. I could have gone shopping (important things I needed to do), but I waited for him.

Maybe try setting up a date night and a friend night. Or just a date night so you definitely get that one on one time you need. That way you can both go out with your friends and then you can go out with each other. It's ok, and healthy, to spend time apart and it's ok to have time with your friends. You said you've been texting him and it feels like he's blowing you off. Is he out with his friends when you text him? Or is he at work? I wont reply much to my fiance (on tye very rare occasion) I'm out with friends bc it's rude to my friends and he'll be fine for a few hours without me. If he goes out without me, or goes to overnight events that I can't go to, I find stuff I like to do. I focus on wedding planning, do,things with my kids, binge watch Netflix shows, reorganize stuff, clean, color, read, or craft. Maybe find a hobby to keep you preoccupied?

I think having a conversation with him about relationship expectations can be a step in the right direction. It can help you communicate your wants/expectations of him, and he can do the same for you. Something like, "An expectation I have for our relationship is for us to make each other a priority and hang out on weekends." or "I would like us to commit to be affectionate with each other regularly", etc. etc.

It's great to set these out and communicate them clearly to each other, because otherwise how would your partner know he is disappointing you or frustrating you? If you hold onto those expectations and don't share them, resentment can build because you think your partner should meet these expectations, despite the fact you haven't communicated them.

Sorry you feel upset by him, but I hope this opens up the door to fruitful and healthy communication and closeness!

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Thanks for the answer! The first time he has done this, guess he ended up drinking too much. I know everyone has their days, but to be flaked on for booze makes me feel a tad bit unwanted.

My FH and I don’t live together yet, we both work full time during the week, and we’re in school. We really only get a few days spend together. Friday night, Saturday, and Sunday morning. We see each other one of those days (sometimes more depending) but if we would rather spend one of those days with his friends before we get married, I’m okay with it. I’m going to get to spend basically every day with him once we get married and I know he won’t get to see his friends as often. Maybe you should plan to go out with your friends when you know he’s going out with his. This sounds like something y’all should talk about before the wedding.

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I think you're seriously overthinking this.

Marriage will not be the two of you joined at the hip. You both need parts of your life spent with other people, friends and family, while the other is doing something else. And a boyfriend or husband is not a pet, to immediately respond every time you reach out, unless it is an actual emergency. You need to accept that when with friends, or busy, your FI will respond when ready. Not necessarily immediately, or in an hour or three. Days off from work are not automatically days spent with you. And he needs to let you go out with friends without always coming along g too. Perhaps you do need counseling, to have more realistic expectations of each other, before getting married.

No relationship can work if all the couple has is each other. Both parties need their own friends, hobbies and interests. Without that, you’ll eventually run out of things to say to each other and will get into a terrible rut. That’s when real problems will start. Don’t worry about him going out. He’s allowed to maintain his friendships. It’s not fair to expect him to forget everyone and everything else in his life because you want him home with you. And so he didn’t text you back immediately. Maybe he’s watching a movie, or if he’s at a bar the music could be loud and he didn’t hear his phone. You need to relax and find something to occupy yourself for when you’re not together.

This won't improve when you get married, so I would deal with this prior & have a discussion with him on what is an appropriate amount of time to set aside to spend together & with friends.

You need to clarify your expectations of the marriage and if he doesn't feel the same then maybe you both need to reconsider the marriage.

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I did overreact, I get that. I don't mind if he goes out, but this time was little different. I didn't text him much until he started taking forever to reply. Everything was fine and yes I do need to work on myself.

This happens to me more than I’d like to admit. We don’t currently live together also, and the only time I get to see him is in the weekends. I don’t have a ton of friends here so when he goes out with his friends our 2 year daughter and I tend to just sit at home and keep ourselves busy. It sucks, and I hate it, but I keep my disappointment to myself because he should get to go out and have fun with his friends without us Sometimes