Paying for the wedding yourself?

We are paying for the wedding due to him having a higher income than me a stay at home mom. He's paying the majority and really contributes to all the major money decions including helping me find all my dress and dresses of the bridal party members including my mom. We live together so our finances are shared. When I have the money I use it the most to pay our combined bills including paying for car maintance even tho I don't drive.

We're paying for it ourselves but I'll end up paying a lil bit more, I think it's fair because most of the guests are from my side.

I am spending more money on the wedding than FH, but I also make three times what he does. He is helping every way that he can. It doesn't bug me because we already look at it as "our money" rather than his and mine. Plus, he would have been happy with a much cheaper wedding. I am the one who had to up the budget to fit my tastes

Fh stays at home with the kids and i work...so i guess i'm paying for the wedding

I don't think it weird.. You guys are going to be a team.

FH and I are paying. His mother offered, but I wanted to be the only one making all of the decisions.

Lots of good earners in this thread. Go ladies! As long as you're both on the same page with your money management as a couple, I say celebrate your ability to foot the bill!

FH is paying for the entire wedding. I feel terrible that I can't help, but I only get Social Security. 746 a month barely keeps a roof over my head. His parents are chipping in about three thousand, but he's paying the rest.

I am lucky that the FILs are paying for the venue rental. My parents are paying for half the caterer and FH and I are paying for everything else. It comes out to us paying close to 70% of the wedding.

Though I know that most brides on this thread are okay with footing most of the money, for me, when FH makes more than I do but can't pitch in as much as I do, I sometimes feel a little resentful. I've been penny pinching since day 1 and have made all the upfront deposits ... FH will be paying for half of all the bigger expenses (vendors) the day of but hasn't contributed much to the things we need before the day of the wedding (invitations, vases, candles, STDs, etc.) We've worked out our issues and have consulted a financial planner for after we get married ... but ... I don't think it's weird that you're paying for most of it, as long as you and your FH have talked about your financial goals to make sure you're on the same page. =)

FH is helping some, but since we are also saving to buy a house I took on the responsibility to pay for most of the wedding. he is focusing on the house money, and maintaining our household bills.

He is satisfied with going to the justice of the peace, so for that reason I felt like he is doing this to make me happy, then I would foot the bill for the wedding. He has been awesome when I say I need money for something, he doesn't complain, he just says how much. I love this man!

I was in that position. NotFroofy lost her job during our engagement, and has yet to find a new one. On the other hand, she is 15 years younger than me. So sometime in the future, she'll need to support me.

Well I guess I felt weird about it since its OUR wedding so I felt like we should both contribute. I was definitely feeling the pressure of paying for the wedding myself so I think that's why I was freaking out. I feel much better now to go ahead and pay for it as much as I can. It's a new learning experience for the both of us since we just moved in and are sharing expenses. And adding a wedding on top of it can get overwhelming sometimes. I can't wait to just get married already lol. Thanks ladies!

Krystle those are all really gimongous adjustments to make individually, no wonder it's overwhelming!

I feel like sometimes, things will be on my shoulders and sometimes things will be on FH's shoulders. That's one of my favorite parts about marriage. If you get a partner you love and trust, your shoulders can take a break once in a while.

We are paying for everything ourselves except my dress.

And most of our money comes from me. It so happens that in the last few years my grandparents have been very generous at christmas times so i had a good chunk of money saved up from that- plus i got a living allowance while going to school so less of my money had to go towards bills, and i don't have any debt. Where he still had to pay for his half of the rent, and his car payment, and student loans.

Like others have said, I see it as our money, because once we are married it won't matter where the cash comes from, what will matter is that we can pay the rent. Sometimes i do worry about FH finding a stable job. He has had the worst luck with jobs since I've known him- and really truly it was bad companies, not him. The problem is he is to trusting when it comes to people, they say he will have all these clients and then he doesn't. We even had to get into legal action with one company because they broke a contract.

@ Kris it definitely is a lot my MOH told me the same thing. He's stressed about his car and me about the wedding. But we support each other to get through it

We are paying for it ourselves and so far I have been footing the bill for it all. FH was out of work temporarily ok for a long time and just started working again. I would've waited but in the beginning we had it planned for somewhere smaller and everything was in one place so we just set the date. Then it turned out that it was too small, and we had to move it. But its all coming together. No real budget, I just pay what I can alittle at a time. Thats all we can do and all we will do until things pick up again or until its all paid for. My Fh also wouldn't settle for eloping. Good luck I do know the feeling all too well! But it will all work out in the end!

Hi date twin! You sure know what I'm going through too good luck bear. I'm paying as I go also. I'm hoping things will pick up soon too!

Paid mostly on our own 13 days to go and almost broke still few things to get getting help from my mom i dont talk to after the wedding, probably borrowing from an uncle to make the rest happen. but at least i will marry the man i was ment to spend the rest of my days so im trying to contain my paranoia.

We are not receiving any help for our wedding either. But I kinda like it that way because that means no one to answer to about big ticket items, no one to rub it in our face that they paid, and since its our wedding and our money that no one else's opinion really matter....opinions are welcome but in the end its our decision.

Guess you could say I'm fortunate. My parents are paying for everything. I paid a little on my dress, but my mom and dad are footing the bill. My fiance's dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.

I'm very grateful for this!