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Crystal, on February 27, 2017 at 10:14 AM

Hello all, So my fiancé and I are trying to stick with a strict budget with our wedding and we finally found a venue that accommodates everything we need. And now that we have made the guest list we are at the issue of allowing plus ones. We knew there was a lot of people who would want to be in...

Hello all,

So my fiancé and I are trying to stick with a strict budget with our wedding and we finally found a venue that accommodates everything we need. And now that we have made the guest list we are at the issue of allowing plus ones. We knew there was a lot of people who would want to be in attendance but we wouldn't be able to accommodate, so we figured if anyone desired a plus one outside of a significant other they'd pay for their meal of $30 and we'll add them to the guest list. How would anyone else feel about this situation or does it seem tacky? I just don't feel comfortable about paying for people I don't really know.

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Super April 2017
LoveYouMoore · on March 5, 2017 at 3:58 PM
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This is disgusting and I wouldn't even attend your wedding as a guest if you told me that. How classless can you be? Gross
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Super October 2017
LadyWatson · on March 5, 2017 at 7:23 PM
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My face reading this...
please don't do that! Couple are ONE first of all.. plan what you can afford
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Expert September 2017
Irina · on March 5, 2017 at 7:32 PM
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No. Absolutely not.
If you make the decision to give a plus one, you do NOT make the guest pay for it. You do. It's your wedding. If you can't pay because of budget constraints, then you don't give the plus one.
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Rachel · on March 5, 2017 at 7:52 PM
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Sorry - tacky :-/
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Kate · on March 5, 2017 at 7:56 PM
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I've definitely only heard of this once and it was my uncle asking I'd he could pay for his son to bring a +1 because he was in a new relationship the couple hadn't known about before hand. Obviously they said he could bring her and they would not allow my uncle to pay. I can't imagine how you would even do this - write guests cost $30 on the invite??? Just invite everyone who is single with a guest. If they're close enough to you to be invited they're close enough to have a guest to hang out with at your wedding. There are few exceptions, but I am on team 'all adults get a +1' and if I couldn't afford a date for that person I'd have to rework my guest list
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Kate · on March 5, 2017 at 7:57 PM
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Whoops just saw old thread - now I'm annoyed at myself for typing all of that
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Devoted October 2017
Esperanza · on March 5, 2017 at 7:57 PM
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Very rude.
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August bride · on March 5, 2017 at 8:24 PM
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I never heard of this before
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24kMagicWed · on March 5, 2017 at 8:45 PM
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That's a big no!
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Abbi · on March 5, 2017 at 8:55 PM
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Umm what. How would you even say that on and invite.... "this invite includes 1 but you may bring a guest for $30 a head.". Please tell me this is a joke. This is tacky and rude. If you told me this ild rsvp no.
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Mrs.K · on March 5, 2017 at 9:01 PM
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Super tacky. If they won't come because they don't get a plus one then too bad.
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Super August 2017
weddingbee · on March 5, 2017 at 9:28 PM
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Ek don't do it
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Dedicated May 2017
Wearethecampions · on March 5, 2017 at 9:29 PM
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This can't be real!
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Grace · on March 5, 2017 at 9:34 PM
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When I read the title of this thread I literally was scared it was going to be about this. absolutelyfrigginNOT. this is totally not okay. this is so incredibly rude.
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Devoted April 2017
Kimberley · on March 5, 2017 at 9:57 PM
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Terrible
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Super December 2017
Susan · on March 6, 2017 at 10:34 AM
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No, no, no!
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Master July 2017
Erin Wood · on March 6, 2017 at 11:05 AM
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Definitely put your foot down with family. If they take it upon themselves to invite people not listed on the envelope then they are the ones being rude. Don't let them force you into a situation you can't afford.
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Master April 2017
ZeldaBride · on March 6, 2017 at 11:16 AM
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Can we please just let a dead thread stay dead?!
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VIP October 2017
Karie · on March 6, 2017 at 11:20 AM
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Definitely have to pay for everyone you invite. They are called "guests" for a reason. Don't invite if you cant afford to pay.
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Jo · on March 6, 2017 at 11:29 AM
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Hey all, Crystal updated us on page 2 that she will not be doing this. Crystal, if you're still around you may want to update the original post to let everyone know that you've made a decision.
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