Paying for plus ones

If you asked me to pay for ANY meal, I'd decline attending.

Lol so once they RSVP, you'll send them an invoice ??

I may need to revive my PSA:

1. If you extend an invitation to a friend or family member that is involved (in any way) with someone, it is etiquette that you address both parties by name and make room on your guest list for their significant other. Your cousin's boyfriend is not her "plus one," he is an invited attendee of your big day. This rule stands for everyone that considers themselves to be romantically attached: you as the bride or groom does not get to define how serious each person's relationship might be.

2. No matter what people might say, it is alright to limit your guest list. If you don't want to allow your single friends or family to bring a date, because of financial or personal reasons, simply address the invitation to the invited person only. If it is within your budget, it is advised to give all singles a plus one.

NOPE

This is the worst idea I have ever heard of. You need to cut your guest list. If you can't invite their significant other due to cost, then don't invite them. Make it close family and very close friends (and their significant others) only. How would you feel if you were invited to something like dinner at my house but were told that your husband can't come unless you pay $30? You'd tell me to fuck off and that I'm rude as hell.

Damn, it was simply an idea that crosses my mind. And I figured I'd get others opinions on it. I thank you all for letting me realize this is a shitty idea but no need to come for me as a person. I'm planning my wedding with only attending one other wedding in my life so I am ignorant to the issue so no need to attack. But I thank you all for giving advice and other options to the matter.

Oh no no no no no no.

To be honest you are better not inviting PLUS ones if you had to go that route.

No need to come for me as a person...no one did, just your idea

no need to attack...no one did

Get a grip child, you asked and we told you.

Don't do it. Guests shouldn't have to pay. I'm assuming you know the friend/family member that would bring a plus one well enough to reach out to them and perhaps set some time up to get to know this person that they would be bringing.

A simple yes this is tacky or no it's not tacky will suffice. But thank you. We'll be crossing this idea off of our list.

You seriously had to ask this? How would YOU feel if you got this invite? It's not a matter of comfort, it's a matter of cheapness. Be honest.

I don't think you'll have to worry about outgrowing your list; anyone with a sig other will rsvp NO.

Crystal, I'm glad you're crossing that off the list because it is tacky, but you cannot tell people how to post.

It is against the CGs. Please read them; it explains more than just the rules, but how the community works.

NO! FFS this is so unbelievably tacky i'm inclined to believe this is a joke.

But why was it an idea in the first place?

Tacky. Don't let people bring a plus 1 if you do not know them or not considered a significant partner. We went through the same and decided this. We have several singles coming and not all family attending if they weren't close. Some people may be upset but whatever it's your day and your $$$.

Again, Crystal, you don't get to tell us how to post.

And if we thought it was that simple, we would have.

But if you had to ask, we had to explain.

What a horrible idea.

@Sarah it was an idea in the first place because we had friends and family who are likely to bring more than invited on the invite, or friends who might et in a relationship after the invite has been sent and he wondered if we could still invite the but have them pay. My fiancé asked if I have heard of people paying for their plus ones? Plus ones meaning other friends, coworkers, siblings unknown to bride and groom. So I took to here to see if one anyone had heard of a similar situation or two if it's just a bad idea all around. So yea that's why it was a thought and question this morning

@Celia yes I asked this because I was curious. And also In my guest list I included people who are already in relationships thank you. I asked for people outside of the relationship of significant other. I.e coworkers, friends, family outside of the bride and groom. I never heard of this idea so I took to here to see if it was something that was tack which has been determined to be a yes. So yea I had to ask

Crystal if someone gets into a relationship after the invite has gone out you don't have to include their SO BUT it certainly is a nice gesture.

Also if you're worried about people brining extra guests you could always put this on your RSVP cards.