Paying for hotels for guests

I don't think anyone ever expects the bride and groom to pay for their hotel rooms. You can reserve a block at a (sometimes) discounted rate for them but that shouldn't cost you anything.

Most people will know that they will have to pay their own travel costs for a wedding. I think pointing it out might come across as rude, even though it isn't rude. Just leave it be and people will figure it out.

They will most likely know that they will be paying for themselves. Are they not used to being out of town? How far are they needing to travel?

What kind of adult expects their hotel room to be paid for?!

They should know they are responsible for their lodging. You can suggest some hotels in the area on your website too. I've never thought the bride and groom would pay for my hotel out of town

Anyone with half a brain knows they pay for their own lodging.

My cousin paid for every guest lodging that was staying the night. They had a huge wedding. Her parents took out a second mortgage on their home to pay for it. They've been married 12 years and are still paying for the wedding. Offer a hotel block close to your reception. They will know they have to pay.

They should already know that they will need to pay for their hotel costs. That is not something the bride and groom usually pay for.

We didn't even bring it up and everyone booked their own rooms on their own.

The problem is my in-laws are going to expect it because my fiancé's father paid for all of his guests' lodging at his own wedding 20+ years ago (making them flat broke through their beginning years as a married couple). They're not 'normal' people who just understand and accept this as this is not how they did it and it isn't how we should do it now.

So then pay for them and no one else. We will probably end up paying for FMIL and FFIL because I am afraid they won't be able to stay if we don't and will have to leave really early.

If it's something your in laws "require" I'm sure they would be happy to foot the bill.

@MsToMrsArmstrong9917, I've witnessed that type of person where I work and they're a real peach.

Tell them you won't be doing it. You're old enough to get married and you're old enough to use the word no.

I'm def. not paying for other people's lodging. I blocked off rooms at a nearby hotel so they could get a nice group rate but that's it. I don't think you have to do that.

@Jay, I couldn't even imagine.

Put information on your wedding website. Like "hotel #1 is $150 a night. Please call the Front Desk at 1-800-111-2222 and say your part of the WW wedding to get the discount!".

Refer to the website, repeat as necessary. Should be clear.

They should know that yall will not be covering the hotel costs. There's no way I would ever expect that from someone.

If your FIL's are expecting it then they can be the ones to foot the bill for everyone. They can't force you to pay for everyone's lodging. That's just insane.

What @Punkin Beer said. We just put hotel info on our website and left it at that.

We had found a nice venue that included lodging, it's also a bed and breakfast, at a reasonable price to house my relatives and immediate family flying in. I realize now that I'm being really nice by footing the bill but I'm sure my mom was expecting it. She's complained about almost everything and even commented about having the wedding in WA because the cost is a lot for to her fly. :/ I would definitely do what previous posters have said and leave it like that before it gets bigger than you need.