Pay for a dance?

Yeah, it pulls up thoughts of strippers for me too.

My FH is Mexican, and we haven't talked about it yet, but I will 100% stay firm on this one. If people want to dance with us, they can just come up and do it, no extra charge.

Let me clear this up since i talked to her recently. They didn't ask for the mobey to go to thier honeymoon. Its a tradition that both herself and her dh wanted to keep. They only decided on what to do with the money after the wedding. I mean what else are you supposed to do withit lol keep it in a jar forever and never touch it. They had everything off thier registration lists and they didnt ask for a lot anyways. Thier honey moon was already paid for so whatever money was put on them for the dance just helped with romantic dinners and souvenirs. Not like they knew what they would use it on. Not everyone os greedy. Some of you ladies need to chill. If you cant understand a culture or a reason behind a tradition than please look into before shaming people on thier choices. This forum really makes me not want to post anything on here and avoid the app

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Wow that is a lot to unpack. Samantha, you asked for advice in an Etiquette and Advice forum. Giving it to you straight is not shaming nor do we "need to chill." It does not matter what the money is for: dinner out, a honeymoon, whatever. Guests should not have to open their wallets for anything, let alone a dance with the bride or groom. There have been many brides/bride to be from all cultures offering up advice and most agree it is a bad idea. The point is/was: they should not be asking for money in any way, shape or form.

I have seen it done both bride and groom had a line going and I thought it was fun. Most people bring cash to tip the bartenders anyways and it's only a dollar. Maybe don't get it pinned on your dress though... My mom is Portuguese and she did something very similar at her wedding called an apron dance so obviously they put the $ in the apron pockets, not sure if my dad had to do the apron dance too.

Its a mexican tradition and i thought it would be a nice idea in theory, that way i could spend a little bit of time with almost all my guests but when i spoke with the dj he forewarned me that depending how many people are there, it can end up cutting into a good chunk of our reception time, all for what? a couple hundred dollars at most? so now im reconsidering it....