Pay for a dance?

It's called a dollar dance/money dance, and no I wouldn't advise doing this to get money to pay for a honeymoon. That's tacky.

I think that's called a dollar dance. Some people do them, especially if it's a tradition or normal in your area of the country. Most people on these forums will say not to do a dollar dance because it is rude. I don't plan to do one, but I think you should do whatever you want.

I’ve never seen this at a wedding but personally I would be so embarrassed to do something like that. Your guests don’t need to give you any more money, especially for a dance. Not a fan.

I've seen dollar dances before, and don't enjoy them. I think it's important to remember that many of your guests will have already brought/sent you a wedding gift (boxed or monetary) if that is something they wanted to do for you, so it's incredibly gift grabby and inconsiderate to expect them to open their wallets up at the reception to give you more money.

DH and I danced with whoever wanted to dance with us at any point during our reception and it was quite enjoyable. At weddings I've been to where the dollar dance has been done, I did not see the point in paying to dance with the bride or groom when it would be so easy to just go up to them at any point during the reception and dance with them for fun and for free. I felt that the dollar dance interrupted the fun atmosphere, as it pulls everyone off the dance floor, and it felt like it took forever for it to end and the party to resume.

I think it's one thing if it's your cultural tradition- there are many cultures that have some version of this. In that case, I don't think it's appropriate to judge others' cultural traditions from our own standpoint.

However, if you just want to do it to raise honeymoon money, that gets a big ol' sideye from me. Your guests have already brought you a gift and you're asking for more? Tacky.

Like PPs said it’s called a dollar dance. To me, they are tacky. I wouldn’t charge someone money to dance with me, especially because most guests already spent money on attending your wedding or on a gift. I’ve been to one wedding with a dollar dance, almost no one had cash on them and it was a little awkward. A honeymoon is a luxury, any money I received as a gift would go towards my honeymoon I wouldn’t host a dollar dance.

I really wasn't asking if i should do it. I simply asked if people have heard of it or done it. Im mexican and alot of the weddings ive attended have done it. With that being said i was only curious if other people have done it

This is a tradition I grew up with and have seen at all the Mexican weddings I have attended. I don’t see it tacky because it is something in my culture that people are accustomed to.

The feminist in my head screams ‘yes! Let’s sell the bride into uncomfortable servitude!’ every time the dollar dance is mentioned, and it makes my spine crack. Just my .02

View Quoted Comment My H is Mexican, some of his family does it and some don't. My H and I were adamant weren't having a dollar dance because of what we've experienced from the weddings we've been to that have held it.

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What Megan said. I have vivid memories of my childhood, attending many weddings where the bride and groom did a dollar dance for what seemed like an eternity then leave the reception. (This was after my parents paid for drinks at a cash bar, something my mom found horrid,)

So.....please skip it. We don't attend your wedding to fund your honeymoon, your electric bill, your anything,

I see this a lot. I love to participate. It's so fun. I won't be doing this at my wedding but I see nothing wrong with it. I see it moreso in different cultures. A lot of white people would say its tacky from my experince and as you can see in the comments but don't let that stop you. None of these people will be at your wedding.

In Mexican culture it’s totally acceptable and totally expected however we’re not doing it since FH doesn’t like to dance.

In Mexican tradition it's common, I'm torn about doing it. Personally I'm socially awkward and it feels weird but my mom's side and most of my FHs family is Mexican and have asked if I'm going to do it so they can have cash, I'm considering putting out some fake dollars to keep the tradition without the monetary obligation but I don't know, I haven't decided. From a cultural standpoint it's not tacky to me IF that's why it's being done. If your doing it to pocket some cash it's kinda wrong.

We plan on doing this. However the maid of honor and the best man will stand next to us and collect the money. It is just another fun thing during the reception.

The only time I saw it was at my fiance's cousin's wedding many years ago, the dj half announced it (not enough for someone who's never heard of it) put on polka music, tied an apron and babushka on her and I was trying to figure out what the heck was going on. He had to explain it to me. Until the boards I thought it was just a Polish thing. I don't think I'll be doing this unless his adorabe grandmother asks me to or something, she's 95 so there's not much she couldn't convince me to do lol.

I've seen this done once and it was awkward. I wouldn't do this if I were you.

To me this one is about guest perception. If everyone that is attending your wedding is from a culture where this is expected and celebrated, ok. If some or most aren't, this is going to be seen as pretty tacky for the reasons PPs gave. I have never seen one in real life, and I have been to weddings of people who are part of the culture that this tradition is supposedly from (Polish & Mexican weddings) and still haven't seen it, so I am not sure how this is cultural and not regional.

I would kill someone if they pinned something to my dress lol

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Wedding Wire Quote of the Week!

Seriously - "Hey honey - let's stop at the bank for some ones! We have a wedding to attend!"