Party the day after the wedding

I think I would find out exactly what they have in mind. Obviously you don't have to follow it to a T but it would give you an idea of what they are thinking. Unless this is supposed to be a surprise. In my opinion, it could be a very nice but low key party. Given the two time options though I think some type of meal would need to be served even if that's just pizza, wings and soda.

While in theory it sounds great, they will be exhausted day after wedding and still need to pack for honeymoon (especially leaving early in the morning). If they really want to see the kids, I'd do like 3-5pm (pizza or subs) so that they still have whole evening to focus on trip. I'd leave it up to the couple if they want to get dressed back up (I know most people who wouldn't want to wear their work uniform outside of work).

I agree with PPs that a causal event will be best. Pizza or subs and sodas for food and have it in the earliest timeframe possible - because they're going to be tired from the wedding (and may still need to pack, I didn't, but I need to be packed like a week ahead). I also wouldn't expect them to dress up again - my dress was *sweaty* after my wedding and would have needed a good clean before I wanted to put it back on.

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They do want to see the kids and it will definitely be low-key. I know they will be super tired after the wedding and most likely hungover but they want to do this. I like the idea of pizza or subs. Thanks!

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The bride is actually the one who suggested they get dressed back up again only to do some photos with the kids. It would be easier if they were just invited to the wedding, haha

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It's not a surprise. They were going to invite them to the wedding and then changed their minds but felt bad about it so I suggested this. They jumped on the idea as long as I plan it. I'm keeping it super simple.

Please make sure the kids know they don't have to bring any presents. That could easily cross the line into really inappropriate. But otherwise, as long as you keep it casual and short and something that teens would want to attend, then I guess it's fine.

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I get where she's coming from (I would love another opportunity to wear mine) - and hopefully she'll keep a backup in mind, for if she doesn't want to put on all her old sweat (or if something (heaven forbid) happens to her dress at the wedding)

She may not realize how exhausting weddings are when you are the center. We went from 8am - 1am and were so tired that we rested a full day and a half afterwards.

This sounds like a lot of planning that will likely backfire. They should decide if they want no kids or invite the youth group, because that’s trying to have your cake and eat it too.


Contrary to popular belief and the newest post-Covid trends, some people feel very hurt if they are invited to a reception only because it sends the message that they are not important enough to make the initial guest list.