Parents paying for wedding

Well im 20 and paying for my own but not because our parents dont want to help but because they dont really have the money to do so.

A quick google research will show that the number of people who pay for their own weddings has been on the rise since the 70s. Apparently for modern weddings, 42% paid by the bride's parents, 42% by the couple, and 12% by the groom's parents (the rest of the % said "other") so it's really not that rare for the bride's parents to pay.

My parents are paying. FH and I certainly could pay for it ourselves without any issue, but it was important to my parents to do this for us. Probs not the best decision since it's caused more stress than the $ is worth. Either way, we plan to do the same for our kids.

But to answer your question, the 1970s haha.

Beyond it just being about age, I think if you are adult enough to get married, you are adult enough to figure it out for yourself, regardless if you are "younger"

I always feel like when the parents put on a big show it is more about their reputation and appearances among their upper elite social circle. My MIL (a real piece of work) is of the opinion that women need to be doted on and put on a pedestal. They shouldn't have to work, so how can they possibly pay for the wedding? I don't agree with her at all. Needless to say, she doesn't like me very much.

My first wedding was 25 years ago and my ex husband and I paid for everything ourselves. We felt it wasn't right for our parents to pay for our party.

FH and I are well into our 30s, so we anticipated paying for everything ourselves. So I was very surprised (and grateful and relieved and whole bunch of emotions) when my dad said that he had been saving money specifically for my wedding. I'm still paying off grad school and am trying to save for a house, so it's really an incredible gift. Also I'm his only daughter AND I didn't marry my idiot ex (who dad didn't like)--I think he's pretty happy to help! It's a substantial sum but won't cover everything, so we are happily paying for the rest ourselves.

I have always wondered the same thing. I have never heard of the couple paying for anything until recently.

I was always told the bride's Father should pay for the entire wedding...But I never expected him to because he's already done so much for me.

I think it's a cultural thing in my case. My parents are paying for our wedding and my mothers parents paid for theirs and so on. And it's not like a chore for them or anything and I'm definitely not spoiled (they won't pay for my college). They're very excited and gifted this wedding to us. It's more for them anyway, as strange as that sounds.