Parents just don't understand!

That you don't have to invite every single person you know and their brother. A foreign concept to Greek mothers.

For my mom it was that my bridesmaids didnt all have to be in the same dress

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A foreign concept to my mother, too!

She wanted to invite an old friend I just reacquainted with.

She wanted to invite an old room mate I haven't talked to since 2011 because that room mate's mom ASKED and wanted us to catch up????

She also wants a "B-list" and I'm hoping she just forgot about that cause I don't want to argue with her about it.

She also told me she'd be "very upset" if my FH was on his phone during the reception. He's a selfie taker. I told her he'd be taking selfies because that's him, that's what he enjoys, and as long as he isn't buried in his phone all night, I don't have a problem with it. She said "That's unnecessary the photographer is there for that."

Our medieval/fantasy themed wedding. I am not even sure if they will attend because it is a strict "must cosplay" to attend and my parents are very traditional catholic folk who believe all that is nonsense. :-\ I am slowly introducing the idea of it being a celebration of our love and uniqueness more than a traditional marriage... Hopefully my Mom will be ok with wearing a simple elegant tunic (anything more than that would probably crash and burn) and they will be receptive. Wish me luck!

That not every person who "liked/loved" our engagment announcement on Facebook has to be invited to the wedding. My dad started freaking out because so many people "like/loved" it.

My dad: How are you going to have that many people come to your wedding?
Me: what?
D: you should not have put it up on facebook. Now you have to invite everyone who like/loved that your engaged.
Me: no dad that's not how it works.

And he's not paying for the wedding so really don't know why he was SO worried.

If you haven't talked to somebody in the last ten years, they probably don't need an invitation!

I am actually really lucky my mom completely understands that times have changed! She is just going with the flow and she says no matter what it will be a beautiful and fun day!

View Quoted Comment Just wanted to say this sounds awesome and have a blast! We're doing a masquerade reception. It took his parents a little while to warm up to it but they are now excited!
Good luck!

My parents are divorced and my mom did not like the concept of my dad getting ready with me for some reason thought that he should get ready with the guys.

I have a man and matron of honor, my FH has a best woman, my mother had a hard time with why the guys couldn't just stand guys on FH's side and girls on mine.

When my husband and I got married last year, I was 56 and he was 61, so we’re probably the age (or even older) than most couple’s parents. Not all of us older folks are unaware of the changing times - LOL! Although I will say My MOH couldn’t wrap her head around her daughter’s bridesmaid’s dresses being mismatched. She also couldn’t understand us having non-floral centerpieces.

My parents were pretty open and understood how my wedding would be different from theirs. The only thing that kinda got them was having an open bar for the entire reception. My parents also got married in a really small farm town with really only one option for each vendor, so me getting married in the Chicago suburbs with tons of options was very different!

Oh I have a list.

1. Non matching bridesmaids dresses

2. No flowers at the church- flowers are expensive and our church is already pretty ornate. Plus we have the Catholic gap so I don’t expect a lot of people to show up for the ceremony. Why waste money on flowers hardly anyone will see.

3. No Veil - I actually did wind up getting a veil but only because I actually liked it when I tried it in. I initially just wanted to do without because I didn’t think I’d like the look.

4. Bridesmaids gifts/paying for their hair and makeup - they are throwing me a destination bach party, several of them are flying to my current city to throw me a shower and all of them have to travel to be in the wedding. They are spending a lot of time and money they deserve a decent thank you.

5. Party bus for pictures - We aren’t doing a first look so we are having our pictures taken after the ceremony and before the reception. We want to go to a few locations in the city and it will be HOT (August in St Louis) so we rented a big air conditioned bus to drive us around and we’ll stock a cooler with booze and have fun along the way.

In sures there’s more but these are the ones that come to mind.

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I'm another lucky one who has parents who understand that things have changed. I did have to tell them no when it came to some of the people they wanted to invite and they both did come and see the venue before we booked it, but other than that, it's been a great process with them. Knock on wood haha!

My mom was pretty reasonable after she got over the fact we weren't getting married in a church, but she hated my MoH's shoes (shiny black oxfords). My bridesmaids all wore floor length gowns so no one could tell, but my mom was insisting I make them all wear heels. She conceded after I told her that if someone was paying attention to my MoH's shoes rather than me and my DH then their priorities were in the wrong place.

My FHs mom had a hard time also with not inviting every extended family member in the world. We didn’t even invite some of my cousins (I hardly know them) and she’s trying to invite her cousins and cousins kids/grandkids. For my mom, it was that we were considering a first look. Not having a first look was the only thing she requested. So we won’t be having one.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this 1000%!

My mom is Polish and used to going to these weddings that have 600 or more guests. She wanted to invite all these people ranging from her old neighbors from the village she used to live in to the friends I had when I was in pre-school.🤦🏼‍♀️ Trying to reason the guest list with her was a struggle. We ended up compromising and are having a “small” Polish wedding of 200 people.

Also, the concept of a mashed potato bar hahaha. I have always wanted one and we are having one during our cocktail hour. My mom feels it is ridiculous and no one will eat from it, but guess we’ll see.😋

It's more my grandmother having issues with a lot of things. I think weddings have gotten a lot more extravagant/expensive since hers. We're not doing anything too over the top but she can't believe the things we'll be having and the money we're spending. She doesn't understand the weekend long destination bachelor/bachelorette parties. She's told me about 10+ times already that her honeymoon was about an hour away from their home and they just stayed in a hotel for a few nights, she can't believe we'll be going out of the country for ours.

Recently she's brought up the cell phone during reception too! I have a 13 year old son and told her I really don't care if he's on his phone during the reception. I'll be sure he socializes with family but after a few hours I think he'll get bored. He's a groomsman so he'll be there all day, that's a long day even for adults!

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I would DIVE into a mashed potato bar. That sounds amazing.

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Haha! Your mom and mine would hit it off! We ended up inviting 340 people... a list that was cut numerous times (originally began at 600). We would have late night battles over the phone, arguing so loud the neighbors could hear us lol I'm glad you understand!