How involved have your parents been in wedding planning?

My mom and MIL were very hands off, thank goodness! They both told my H and I it was our wedding, not theirs, so they have no opinions. We have very good and firm boundaries with our parents, so it makes everything so much easier.

My mom is very dry about my wedding. She shows no interest whatsoever.

My mom wants to know about things as they happen, and she only gives input when asked.
My FMIL, on the other hand................ (We're not listening)

My mother tries to involve herself too much and is nothing but critical of every idea I have, especially if it isn't traditional. I try to avoid discussing anything wedding related with her.

View Quoted Comment My mother doesn't show any interest in my wedding either. My sister had a baby 6 months ago so I've lost her interest lol.

My mom went on some venue tours with us. Things she was supposed to plan fell through and I planned everything. My FMIL was VERY hands off and that's okay. She is helping with our Tea Ceremony which is a cultural thing that my fiance and I don't know much about.

Both of our moms we keep equally involved. When we make big decisions we let them know and they are both excited. They are both going dress shopping with me. My mom checks with me to make sure we are both happy with everything, I tend to say I picked ___, so she always asks what my FH thinks to make sure I’m not driving him crazy lol

I asked my dad for a budget in december and he never gave me onw but said he will pay for the wedding
My mom is great and helps me with alot of diy stuff she helps me shop and pick things out she listens to my problwms and tries to help
His mom is ok but i feel like shes doing more than i expected she went and bought us red solo cups to drink out of 🤔
I like that shes helping but shes helping without me if that makes sense
If my mom wanted to go shopping for something she would include me not just get it without me seeing it
Maybe i micromanage?? Lol

View Quoted Comment I wish it were that simple. She is just not happy with the man I have chosen to marry. She was excited about my first wedding to the biggest "disrespectful dog" walking the face of this earth, but now that I am marrying a man that respects, worships, supports, and loves me for me she is not happy at all. I am so confused.

My dad only cut the check towards the honeymoon and my FMIL is planning the reception.

My mom got hands on at the year mark. She was against the marriage because she suddenly hated my FH. No real reason, just hated him. She eventually came around and actually started helping me with my DIY stuff. She still doesn't like FH, but she also doesn't want to be like her mom, who ditched the night before her wedding and refused to speak with her for almost a year.

FMIL doesn't get to be involved. Not ready for that can of crazy controlling and not-great taste in decor. Lol.

My mom is very hands off. Her input has been strictly financial. My FMIL has given her input but only when asked. My FFIL will barely talk to us about the wedding. My father however is super negative and keeps trying to control who is invited, how much money we're spending, what vendors we hire, etc.

Sadly both my parents have passed as his dad however my FMIL asks a lot of questions (not too many, lol) but she lives across the country and can't do stuff with me. So we are on our own.....but we love it.

View Quoted Comment My mother and FMIL are dry as well but they can act like raisins all they want idc lol

My mom is happy to give input when ask, and I'm glad she's someone I can talk to about it if I just can't decide on some silly detail (without endlessly bugging my bridesmaids or sometimes my FH ) .

My FMIL was also quite helpful in the beginning, though she is a really quick thinker and often decides on the best plan before anyone else has had time to figure things out, so it's been hard to not just default to what she says. But right now, my FMIL has a lot going on in her life (one of them being obsessing over her first granddaughter (FH's niece) ) so she's pretty hands off now, which I don't mind.

View Quoted Comment Lmao at raisins!!!!!! Idc either. I am grown and happy.

My parents have been super involved!! In a good way lol, they are helping finance the wedding so I definitely like to take their ideas and opinions into consideration.. my mom is also really good at visualizing things and Is amazing at decorating so I appreciate her help with everything ! & my father is taking care of a lot of stuff on his own ( limos, antique car) things like that without it coming out of the budget they gave us ! my fiancé unfortunately doesn’t have parents but I wish every single day that they were around to be involved.

My mom is so involved, we love to throw ideas off each other. My FMIL isn't as involved due to her living so far away, but I'm sure as we get closer to the date she will want more input.

My mom was very involved with helping me with things but wanted it to be what I wanted not what she wanted. We have always been completely opposite when it comes to clothing, decor, colors etc.

My parents have been decently involved. We run ideas and vendors past them being that they are paying for the wedding.