My mother and I got into a disagreement yesterday over what guests to invite to my bridal shower. We are limited with the number of people we can have (48 people max) and my mom would like to invite all of her girlfriends over some family members that I would like to be there. I am already letting my parents invite all of their friends to our wedding, even though we do not know half the people, but I feel that the bridal shower should be more intimate and should include guests the couple know. My grandmother told me that I have no say over who my mother invites to my shower and it does not matter if I do not know people there. I am upset by this and I feel like my mom has put me in a terrible situation where I have to tell my future in laws to cut their guest list (including some of the grooms family) and not invite people from my fathers family (my parents are divorced) so that she can invite friends I’ve never even met. Is it normal for parents to pick out the guest list or should the couple decide who is at wedding related events, such as the bridal shower? I would add that both mothers are splitting the cost of the shower but my fiancé and I are paying a significant portion of our wedding.
Thank you for the help/advice.
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