Parents Crazy demands

Are your parents paying?

If not, they can STFU.

My parents aren't paying, but they aren't making any demands, either. The closest it's come to that is my mom asking if I would mind inviting this woman who she has been friends with since kindergarten, who is also apparently my godmother (I think i knew that once upon a time but had forgotten).

My mom was insisting I wear pantyhose. I have my first fitting today so I will see if she brings it up. I'm like spanx will work just fine, plus my shoes are open toed.

Your in laws seem to have been causing you trouble for a very very long time now lol. I'm surprised that you're surprised at how outrageous they can be.

Wow that's crazy!! Definitely his choice of whether or not he wants to keep the beard. My mom has tried to do some crazy demands; request that we invite her boss for example, but I foot my foot down instantly. However I'm sure when it gets closer to the date the crazy MOB will come out!

My mom told me I "had" to dye my hair back to my natural color. I said "we'll see". I've still got well over a year so I hope it doesn't turn into intense demanding, lol. I'll probably just keep saying that and when it doesn't happen a week or so before the wedding she'll get the hint.

Yeah STFU is right. My FH has a beard and has for years and who are they to demand anything? This is a moment to firmly put them in their place about it. Thank goodness no demands have come our way because they would have been shut down oh so quickly!

Really? A beard? Jeez.

It hasn't gotten too bad, but it's the guest list for my FMIL. She won't just GIVE me a list. Everytime I talk to her she says, "I need to add 2 or 3 more to my list" Uh..what list? Right now I have 119 people that FH and I have made up together. I know her list will include about 15 of those people (aunts, uncles, godparents, cousins). But this imaginary freaking list and she won't give me numbers. I want my guestlist in writing so I can plan everything else, not this imaginary entity.

Even if they were paying, I don't know if they have the right to make requests regarding someones facial hair. Guests, caterer, photographer, etc, yes but not something that personal.

They are paying for about 1/3, but so are we, and so is my parents. I can see having a say in wedding related things such as guest list, food, and things like that. but my FH's grooming? That is far far over the line.

@Janeen I am not surprised by this in the least, but it doesn't piss me off any less.

Thankfully no crazy demands here. FMIL had me pretty peeved about adding LOTS of people to the guest list. They're paying for the catering though, so I was more ok with it when I found that out. It's water under the bridge now, but the way it went down left me annoyed. Oh well. Once wedding stuff is over, we can go back to our normal lives.

We haven't gotten any crazy demands but have gotten some "strong suggestions" from both sets of parents. Which are quickly shut down with the phrase "Are you paying for this wedding?"

*insert crickets chirping*

I understand, but it's pretty obvious they're not going to change their ways. Maybe you can find a way to ignore their crazy so it doesn't affect you as much.

I had a purple streak put into my hair almost a year ago at the beauty school so the stylist could get "extra credit". Well, the blond piece they bleached out to do the coloring remains. My FMIL "strongly suggested" that I get all my hair colored to make it all the same. I do not color my hair and I told her I thought I might actually get the fun color put back in. I thought she was going to fall out of her chair. She gave me this "OMG" eye roll of disapproval - it took her a month to notice the color in the first place so I don't see the issue here.

@Janeen, I really wish I could. But I think they know if they nag him enough there is a very good chance he will give in, and it has bee really worried about whether or not he will. It's not about the beard, though I do love him with it, and really want it for our wedding photos. It's about the precedent it will set going into our marriage if he caves on this.

We've been told that we need to baptize our daughter in exchange for wedding money. We were also told we needed to have our wedding in a church for it to be a "real" wedding. My favorite is when my FMIL played the dead mom card as an excuse for her to be able to invite all of her aunts/uncles/cousins/coworkers. We sat her ass down and made her watch as we used a dart board to narrow down her list.

ETA: FMIL also tried demanding I cover my tattoos. I tell her for every time she says that I'm promising to get at least one more tattoo in the future.

Nothing really thank god. My mom asked me to add my step-dad's youngest brother, but he's my age and I really like him and his gf. FH and I stayed with him and my sister (they were roommates) when we went to a wedding last year, so I didn't really have a problem adding them. We're getting married in a private civil ceremony. It was just going to be our parents, but FILs insisted that FH's brother and sister-in-law were invited as well which meant I needed to invite my sisters.

So that's a much much much bigger problem. You don't trust him to stand his ground on something that you two have decided on as a unit....and that's kinda what I've been getting at because you've had a pattern of these posts over the past year that I've been here.

That's something you really really need to work on before you get married. You guys are not a "unit".

He really has gotten better about these things. It's the only reason I am marrying him, is because he has done a better job of sticking to his guns with them, and he tells me he will on this.

But his parents are meeting him at the hotel before the wedding, and I have this crazy fear that they will bully him into shaving it. Question...would it be out of line for me to talk to him mom and tell her how much it means to me that he have a beard on our day?

I don't know if this is crazy because my parents are paying, by they are inviting 17 couples who are their friends. They're paying, so of course I just smile and nod, but due to venue space constraints (venue selected before I knew they would be inviting so many of their own friends) FH and I had to seriously cut down on our own guest list. It is looking like my mother and father are going to be have more friends at the wedding than FH and I, but apparently that is the norm for their circle/our area.

@JaKlyn I feel for you so much and understand because my FMIL is just as crazy, although not as much directly to face as yours.