Hi guys,
My Fiancee and I have been going back and forth on this issue for a while now. We are on a pretty tight budget. We are throwing a wedding in a major city for around 100. His parents are helping us out TREMENDOUSLY which is amazing and I am very grateful for it.
My parents, however, have not contributed anything. They don't seem to care too much what happens or what has been going on throughout the wedding process. This is absolutely fine with me. They've told distant relatives (think 4th-5th cousins) about the wedding and they want to have them come. These are people I met MAYBE once in my life and have never spoken to again. To keep costs low, we have been following the "have you spoken to them in the past year or so? Can you see you wedding without them" guidelines and I can definitely see my wedding without them because they don't fit any criteria that would make me want them there.
With that being said, I don't know exactly how to tactfully address this with my parents. Should I just tell them no and leave it at that? Or should I ask if they plan on contributing so we can afford for them to attend? Is that too douchey? My family has a tendency where if one person shows up, 4 extra will show up too. My venue has a fairly small capacity and I don't want to end up paying for an additonal 8 people and then 10 more appear. My family knows that my future in laws are helping and that they are pretty well off. So I don't know if they just think they'll help cover that cost too. They aren't and in previous conversations, they definitely wouldn't.
Sorry for the long post. Any advice or help is appreciated. This has been making me super anxious and I kind of wanted to get this off my chest and get other opinions too. Thanks!
