Fiancé and I were going to have a fairly small wedding since initially we would pay ourselves but then our parents wanted to help out and throw a big wedding. So we budgeted off of how much they would contribute. My mom offered 40%. Fiancé’s mom and stepdad offered 12-15%. I am grateful for the contributions but I wonder why she helped out her daughter with like 50% for her wedding. In our culture, it’s usually the groom’s family paying most of it as a “dowry”, old traditions or even half.
Anyway, we are near completing payments and fiancé’s mom gave us a check way below what she said she would pay...like 5%. Again, I am grateful she offered payment but we budgeted from the discussions we all had. Not to mention half of the guest list is mostly her side of the family and friends she keeps trying to add on. It makes me feel bad that my parents are helping pay for a large portion of it if it’s mainly their side. I told my mom to not give me more money because I felt bad but my mom insists.
So now we are trying to come up with a way to make the complete payments, maybe sell some things and just make some major budgets. I’m just a little confused why fiancé’s mom said she would pay an amount and give less than half of what she said she would. What’s worse, I hear they’re going to vacation at some expensive resort in Mexico later this year and next year now!
Like I said, we weren’t expecting any help but when we budgeted around what we said she’d pay but isn’t even giving half of what she said she would... I’m so confused. It’s not about the money.
I’m annoyed my mom is paying for a lot of the wedding with mainly her guests and his side of the family, they’re going to fancy vacations out the country this year and next year, not to mention contributed way more to his sister. I’m not going to say anything but I just feel slighted in how this happened.
