So, after all the talks with the priest, after the precana disaster...
We just spoke to the priest and he is not comfortable having us marry in the church. He is fine with us marrying... he just doesn't think we are in a place where it would be a "sacrament".
We have 3 1/2 months to go and we don't know what we are going to do.
I've had a sinking feeling this was the case, honestly since FH first said he'd like to get married in the Catholic Church. But I still feel caught off guard and more than a little panicky.